co-worker flirting

I'm in a relationship, which i think is reaching expiry date...so i'm not cheating or anything, and i havent yet...

At work, there's this girl in my department that recently started flirting with me, I never noticed and was not interested in her until she started giving me these strong "sexual" signals...like she started complimenting my looks, saying that i'm sexy in email and sms,

so i decided to give it a go, to flirt with her...just for fun...

so we used to fone, sms, chat etc....and it used to be really really explicit, she was a bit shy at first but when i broke down those barriers she became really sexual in her chats...saying things like "she want to feel me cum inside her" etc, etc...

things were really hot until I went to Spain in August, when I returned, i get the feling she is not interested anymore, well she wants me to stop flirting/sms/calling, I stopped, so I just speak normal stuff to her and I act like i'm not interested.

Recently i noticed that she still expects me to flirt with her, like she will pass some inuendo but when I bite then she says i'm being naughty, now really i'm not interested but she makes me interested by getting my attention then leaves me hanging?? whats the deal with that??? Maybe she a cock-teaser...how do I get her to have sex with me.

...all the vital signs are there but she says that she knows i got a girlfriend, and she says the only reason she dont wanna is because of my gf...

does she expect me to chase her? how do i get her interested again? any suggestions...

 

She was probably dissapointed that you never followed through. Or maybe she found out that you're in a relationship and thinks that you overstepped the line (hell, I would, if someone regularly spoke like that with another person, at least without discussing it with me first. No it's not technically cheating but it is a betrayal of your partners trust)

 

she knows from the beginning abt my gf.

she dresses up really sexy these days and asks me hows her new "haircut", or new sandals, etc... i just give her one word answers to show i'm not interested sexually...

she says things like "i dressed up for you". then if I say lets go somewere, she says "naughty"...u think if I just grab her, thats what she expects?

i think this ignore therapy is working as she trying to impress me more...but how do I get her to go ahead...

 

c'mon ppl...

time is running out, i need ideas...

 

Shes dissapointed because you didnt fuck her soon enough...

If a girl was to tell me that she wants my cum inside her. That would only mean one thing. Fuck me.

Bit slow on the trigger I think?

And now shes teasing you... So dont take her bait. Let her come to you.

 

makes sense...

we share the same office, she gets jealous if i chat to other women...

 

Ok. First of all, you WERE cheating. You may not think so, but Ill bet your girlfriend would have thought so if she'd known. Why do guys think they have to be having intercourse with someone for it to be cheating???... Sheesh. YOU dont have to be having sex for it to be cheating. It IS cheating on an emotional level. If you were doing your flirting at work, email, phone etc without your girlfriend being aware of it, its cheating. If you were doing it behind her back because you thought it would bother her to know, its cheating. ...

If your talking to another woman so much with sexual intention WHILE you are involved with someone else ... its cheating. (besides the ONLY reason you havent had sex with this other girl yet is because she backed away, not because you were such a good boy... )

The fact is, you are IN A RELATIONSHIP, until its over. Dont assume that its ok for you to flirt around because you think your current relationship is almost over. Your girlfriend may not even know how you feel about that. She might think things are fine with you two. So dont kid yourself.

You were going behind your girlfriends back, telling yourself it didnt matter because you think the relationship "is reaching expiry date...so i'm not cheating or anything" ... and THAT is kidding yourself.

um ... so lets go back to the beginning. Its a bit late for this, as the damage has already been done, but do your girlfriend a favor, and tell her about what youve been doing, and BREAK UP WITH HER, please?? You should have done it when you first began flirting with this other girl....

I mean why are you still in the relationship, anyways?? If you want to flirt around, MOVE ON. How freakin lame. Break up and move on. Save your girlfriend the wasted time being with you. She probably does care and you dont even know it. Your too busy off flirting.

And at least the girl at work had enough decency about her to back off, because yeah, deep down, it even bothers the slutty girls! to disrespect a relationship. Cuz if your going behind your girlfriends back and flirting around, good chances are, you will do it to a new girlfriend, too.....

And thats the kind of guy a girl cant trust.

Probably best if you stay out of relationships and just stick to playing around with other like-minded players. Because your just in it for fun, and you are going to hurt someone.

 

lol

how can i get her to sleep with me? if she acting "not" interested?

 

My hero *swoons*

What this person said, yeesh.

 

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uh ..... nevermind. Your brain/heart is truly in your dick. You dont deserve to get laid.

But good luck with that.

 

This guy is a complete dirtbag.

Do yourself (and everyone else!) a favor and crawl in a hole and leave these girls alone.

 

Yea, wonder why. You might try finishing screwing up your current relationship before screwing up your pretend ones.

 

The only thing worse than spam, is spam thats not proper english, and mispelled...

 

come on ladies, here's my sincere apology for offending any of you.
sorry!

but seriously now, dont judge me before you know the whole truth, i soon to be ex has betrayed me in the past two months...look at both sides of the story before you attack.

I cant just dump her, i have a kid with her.

so back to the question...do u think I should just leave my co-worker to come to me or take control of the situation and kiss her...

btw...tody she has dressed up the sexiest i have ever seen her...short skirt, bending to pic things, turning around to talk to me, playing with her hair...

you think wants me to just grab her??

 

i think you should be areal man and stick with the mother of your child and be a REAL father. Soon enough your child's gunna realize who you really are and what your doign ... (hurting mommy) Today's society is full of dead beats!! (sorry if i have offended anyone) If your soon to be ex is the mother of your child don't think she'll be gone for good ... She'll always be around and she'll never go away. You have a kid!! THINK with your HEAD on your SHOULDERS!!!! Being apart from one another makes the heart grow fonder... Just because what you want out of one relationship ISN'T working out for DOESN'T mean YOUR going to get it from ANOTHER.... you may think you will, but chasing girls/women, and flirting and cheating will lead you nowhere. If i look at both sides if your current gf that "cheated" on you 2 months ago , so you say . or for 2 months did that ??? Does that make it RIGHT? Does it make it right Your doing that ?? NoDo 2 wrongs make a right
No
Theres your answer
Therefore if you truly want to stand your ground personally i would just let the co-worker go, and mend your relationship.

 

how do i delete my post?
u guys r not helpfull...

 

Well you see, thats impossible, because you are the one here telling about your selfish desires, and she is not here to tell HER side of the story.

Betrayal .... whatever. Thats just the way you see it, and we still are not hearing her side of the story.

And believe me, a child would rather be living with split-up parents, than seeing cheating going on .... kids are much more observant than we realize as adults. Kids can see the hidden shit that goes on.

 

lol....

Yeah of course, you just wanted us to back you up and make you feel good about yourself and what your'e doing ... and encourage you along...

Sorry to dissapoint.

 

Weren't you the one that posted the other thread about your wife not wanting to fullfill some desire that you never stated? Looks like you have been trying to put nails in that coffin for awhile. Look if you want to have an affair, yes you are going to have to actually make a move. Any moron could figure that out. What I am saying is at least end the relationship you are in first. What is the point of bringing more pain into your relationship with you wife. Its easy, if you want someone else then leave the wife, its only fair. Don't think you are doing your kid any favors by bringing them up to think you and your wifes realationship is normal. They will carry that on with them through their lives.