cheating

do you do it? what are your reasons for cheating?

 

never. you get wat u give. u'll just hurt the one u tell u love them.

 

I have never cheated - and there never is a good reason too cheat. There are certain people in this world who are cool with sexually open relationships, in which case there is no such thing as cheating. If I ever felt the need to cheat on someone, I broke up with them and just went after the other girl as obviously the relationship wasn't strong enough.

 

I could never cheat on my boyfriend. I feel I dont need to..he gives me all I want and more. why would I cheat???

In the past I've been unfaithful to one guy I was seeing cos,after all, he wasnt really into me and I could tell his lack of real interest.He made me feel like crap most of the time, but I didnt do it to get back at him or anything, just to enjoy myself.

I dont justify cheating, I think when you're are in a good relationship with another person, there isnt any need to cheat. that's the whole point of a relationship, so why bother having one if you're not going to be faithful?

 

exactly what i was thinkin...

 

I never have cheated. I never will cheat.

There is not logical reason to cheat. It's just as easy to call it quits with your guy/girl.

 

When I've been in relationships I have never cheated...I wouldnt bother getting into one if i didnt think it was worth some sacrifice

 

I was like, 16 maybe, and my b/f from some sleep-away camp cheated on me. I haddnt heard this from him, but his best friend told me, and I wouldnt believe it untill some other people had actually proof, like a picture or somthing. The picture was only him holding hands with another girl. I got so mad, so I quickly decided it was gonna be over, and give him hell when he got back.
My very good guy friend at the time was comforting me and such...when things led to other things...and before i knew it we were making out. When my b/f got back, he totally denyed cheating on me, and his friends got in a big fight over it, but in the end i was still a cheater. I still feel terrible about it to this day...I advise to never cheat, no matter what. God, i was so stupid when i was younger...

 

I have. It was the biggest 10-minute mistake I ever made. My friend and I were at my other friend's get-together (it was like a party, but there were only like 10 of us). We were both drinking, it was my first time drinking, and she persuaded me. I stopped after a few minutes and left. The enext day I told Awbrey, and I was holding my breath for like 2 weeks until she decided not to dump my ass, but she still won't talk about it because she says it hurts. That's the worst feeling in the world, hurting the one you love and breaking their trust liek that. I would never friggin recommend it.

 

If I had a girlfriend; I'd never cheat on her.

 

I've never cheated, and I never will. I also don't stand for cheating, end of story. I just dumped my last gf for cheating on me, man did that hurt!

 

betrayels are the worst, how can you respect yourself if your a person unworthy of respect?

 

stupid stupid

 

stupid

 

move to utah.





(damn, i know that's going to upset people, so just for the record my dad's side of my family is mormon.. i'm just joking around about what he should do)

 

i never cheated, and i never will. for one, i think the point of a relationship is to be with that one person only. secondly, nowadays i see guys i know i would be interested in normally, and i'm not. i just want my boyfriend.

 

Don't do it. I am in the similar situation on the other side. Trust me, you will regret it and please, please, please be honest with yout partner. You can not love 2 people at the same time and have the same feeling for both. If you really love your girlfriend, you should really stay with her. Don't hurt her. If you even think of it, break up then move to another person. Cheating is the most horrible thing one can do to another in the relationship. Honesty and respect is the most important thing. My girlfriend cheated on me and I found out last week. It was horrible. You'll torn someone who you care. That is how I feel now. I broke it off with her and she kept telling me she loves me and him. When you found yourself attracted to this other person, just think this is new. Exactly the same way you were with your current one. don't burn the bridges behind you, because you don't know how this new person is. You already know your girlfriend and been with her for past 4 years. That means you see something in her to stay for 4 years. Trust me as a person who is in pain and torn, it is not worth it.

 

never ever ever cheet, it only hurts ppl who dont deserve it. it took my wonderful bf a long time to ask me out becuase hed been hurt so bad and couldnt get close to a girl again easily, and hes way too good for that, really...so get some morals and if ur gonna cheet just break up with your significant other...

 

I know what you mean, Maryfairy. I'm very in love with my boyfriend, and I see other guys who I know I'd be attracted to normally...but the bottom line is, I just want my boyfriend, and the thought of being with someone else just doesn't interest me...


Now, back to the original post...I fucking HATE cheaters!!! When you're in a relationship and you love someone, you just don't do that shit to that person. Also...when you're in a relationship with someone, it should be built on friendship, first and foremost. Why the fuck would you want to hurt a friend like that? More specifically...HOW could you hurt a friend/lover like that? I just really don't understand cheaters. And moreso...I don't fucking understand how someone could be with someone who cheats on them over and over again. Now that just baffles my mind...and I think it's fucking bullshit.

What's the point of cheating on someone? Obviously, if you want to cheat on your partner, there's not much of a relationship there as it is. So why not just break up with them, and not drag them through that shit?

Ugh...I shouldn't have started on this subject. I can't fucking stand cheaters (and surprisingly I've never been cheated on...so I don't speak from my own personal experience...haha)...

 

i've cheated in the past, when i was younger and stupider. my reasons at the time...i don't recall how i rationalized my behavior, but the real reason ultimately was because i was afraid. i was totally afraid to really let myself love. and to be honest, leaving my second marriage now, i know why i was afraid - because that kind of vulnerability is really scary. when you let yourself trust and truly love you leave yourself open to a lot of potential unbearable pain.

when my current marriage - i'm in the process of divorcing now - first started showing signs of point-of-no-return suffering, i fell in love with someone else. it was totally unexpected. by that point i had already fallen out of love with my husband. but i was still married. so what i did was communicate honestly about it. i told my husband i was attracted to this man, that i was feeling stifled and unhappy in our marriage, and that if he wanted to get counselling and heal our marriage i would stop seeing the man, forever. my husband laughed, and told me to go ahead and fuck him, because it didn't bother him. he wanted an "open marriage" - which essentially boiled down to wanting to move on but being afraid to until we'd each found our "replacement". not a healthy situation at all. it wasn't until the emotional separation finally sunk in that he realized i was serious. there were many other serious issues that had been driving us apart for awhile. i never got involved with the object of my affections, although we did talk about it. i ended up getting hurt again - although i'm glad i didn't cheat, because that would have been worse. openly communicating my desire to stray honestly and straightforewardly didn't save my marriage - by the time i started feeling attracted to other men it was already too late - but it did allow us to end things peacefully, honestly, and even lovingly. altogether a better alternative to cheating, although quite frankly i hope i never have to go through a similar experience again.