Cheating On Your girlfriend

Let me guess; you did a double take when you read the title of this article, right? I'm not condoning cheating in a relationship, nor denying that it's wrong to cheat. I'm merely suggesting that in some cases, cheating may be beneficial to a relationship.

So why am I writing about such a controversial issue? Because most men and women cheat on their partners at some point in a relationship, and they need to be informed that cheating has at least an ounce of redeeming value. Cheating is not always bad; surprisingly, it can help to improve current relationships.

I'm not implying that every man should go out and be unfaithful, nor am I implying that all men cheat on every woman they date. All it means is that at some point, the little head overpowers the big head and men venture into forbidden territory.

why do we cheat?

Cheating generally means that you are not fully satisfied with your current partner or you feel that something is missing in the relationship. If you were completely in love and happy within your relationship, then why would you jeopardize all that you have for a five-minute fling with the girl next door?

When men cheat, it basically means that they are looking for something their girlfriend or wife is not providing. Often times, it comes down to Sex

 

You are wrong about that. Did you ever look at it from our side. Relationships are about give and take.Not all take and no give. You need someone who as they say fills your love tank. If you don't get that then in return you want full your parnters. So by that you both are getting nothing from the relationship. But it takes TWO for a relationship to work not just one. You need all of it in a relationship for it to work physical, emotional and spiritural. A good book for people to read is the 5 love languages for couples or singles. It helps alot. Cheating is not a solution. IT only causes hurt and pain to the other partner. When in fact you should just talk to your partner about the problems you are having. You don't run out and fuck someone else. You think that is going to help your relationship. YOU ARE WRONG. CHEATERS GO TO HELL and are LOSERS.

 

I agree with the above poster.
The only person that cheating 'benefits' is the person who does it, the person who deems that they arent getting what they need from there partner. The other person gets nothing but heart break and no trust from the person they have grown to trust. Cheaters are losers, they are hurtful, mean, and they should get dumped.

 

amen to the 2 posters above.If your partner is not satisfying you cheating is not going to make any good difference,only cause hurt and bad feelings

 

This is a controversial issue?

 

I agree, everyone with any sence knows that cheating is wrong.

 

I agree with the two people above.Why do people think that cheating is the answer. They don't know how it feels. The hurt, pain, and not trusting the one you love. They need it done to them, so they can feel these things. The most important thing in a relationship is communication. You need to know how your parnter feels.

 

What in the crap on a stick?

Are you for real? This has to be a male poster....

Anyway...Cheating is wrong. There is no excuse to cheat. If a guy is not happy about something in the relationship, he should talk about it with his partner, not just go out and sleep with someone else.

Communication, trust, and honesty is the key to all healthy relationships...cheating does not satisify any of these keys.

Sorry, man, but you have it all wrong.

 

Cheating is wrong in any situation. Theres no controversy.. its just wrong.

 

The OP had some valid points, but "cheating can improve a relationship" was not one of them.

Yes, some women cheat to fill some emotional void that is lacking in their marriage. The rest cheat because they want to get laid.

Yes, some men cheat to get sexual needs met. The rest cheat because they want someone to fill an emotional void.

Men and women cheat for the same basic reasons. The individual person decides which excuse to use. I say excuse because it usually is. If you are unhappy in your marriage/relationship either work on fixing it, accept the way it is, or leave. Being unfaithful puts the innocent partner at risk for STD's and other diseases. It can also put the partner in jeopardy of physical harm.

I have seen many many fights started between the unsuspecting partner and new love interest. One of the fights ended up with people in jail and a guy in an ambulance with stab wounds. Yeah, that is an extreme case, but it DOES happen. No one can control another persons emotions, so what may be a casual fling to someone is "true love" to their new partner.They may believe there is more to it than just sex and be angry at the bf/gf waiting at home for the cheater. It can and does escalate in some cases.

Cheating may be considered a "good thing" if someone were undecided in their relationship and by cheating they realized it was really over. The catch here is to end the relationship that day, not wait around and hope the other person finds out. Some people need that push to leave. Not justifying it, just giving an example.

 

DON'T CHEAT. IT EFFS EVERYTHING UP! take it from me, who is now boyfriend-less since sunday for KISSING somebody last november. i decided to tell my bf 2 weeks ago because i felt as though our relationship was being based around a lie if i wasn't being honest. to many, KISSING could be just as bad as SEX apparently. so just don't do it. knowing that you hurt someone else so bad...making someone else cry...next to being cheated on, it's the most terrible feeling ever.
if you're going to cheat, break up with person first. they'll be hurt that you left them, but not as hurt as if you cheated on them.

 

indeed i am a male poster
everyone got his/her own opinion.
That was my opinion and im happy you guys shared your opinion
i told mine and u people tell me yours
greetz StarTech

 

You haven't had enough relationship experience to make such a bold statement.

Cheating is wrong, for all of the above reasons and more. There is nothing positive that can come of it.

IMO, someone who cheats is just weak, too weak to stand up for themselves in a bad relationship and fears being honest and straightforward with their partner. So its a passive agressive way of getting back at them, or they fear being alone so much that they will not leave someone.

I have cheated on one person. The reason I cheated is because I was 21 years old, had a girlfriend who I was with for about a year and I was lucky to have sex once a month with her. I cheated to get my needs met, at least thats what I thought I was doing, but it was both a passive agressive way of getting back at her and it was also the fact that I was too much of a pussy at the time to stand up to her and break up with her.

IMO its the same basic reasons for everyone, or the person just plain has no moral values and doesn't know how to act in a relationship.

If I decide I want to sleep with other people, I have the balls to tell my partner and do the right thing by breaking up with them. IMO I owe it to them to be honest. It may hurt their feelings but they deserve to know the truth, and most importantly its about my own integrity.

There is way too much lying in relationships now days, and the bad thing is everyone just looks the other way while people are out cheating like crazy on each other, and even though its wrong society has accepted it, even glorified it in some cases. But there would be a heck of a lot less problems if people just had the guts to be honest and tell it how it is.

 

Cheating has absolutely no redeeming quality whatsoever and the only reason to suggest otherwise is to try to convince oneself that it's acceptable.

Cheating is selfish and cruel, plain and simple. No good can come from it, and if you really think otherwise then you are doomed to shallow, painful relationships, at best. If you don't understand that it is fundamentally wrong in all cases and why, we can't help you. Best of luck to you.

 

Damned , isnt my text clear enough
if u read it well you should understand my opinion

 

Yeah well I cheat to get my sexual needs met...Even if it's just a LITTLE
My bf has never gone down on me
he never lets me go down on him
he's fingered me once out of the three years we've been on and off

I feel he doesn't trust me.

And thus, I cheat.

It's wrong, yes, but humans are such greedy little children.

 

To the above poster, why don't you just break up with him and go out with someone else? I couldn't date someone who wasnt sexually compatible.

 

Thekarthika your 15... for 3 years and your that sexually active, that you cheat on him to get sexual needs fulfilled..... try slowing down and finding someone with a similar libido level rather than being deceitful.... might work out better in the long run.....

 

He's really the only person i care to date. If that makes any sense. Just we don't see eye to eye on a lot of things, it gets in the way. So idk it'll probably end soon.

I've known him for three years, I'm saying he's not sexually active at /all/. We've really only dated fora total of maybe three months putting all of the times together, soo...it's not like we're solid. at all.

 

if thats the case why cant they vocalize? it may hurt to hear it but it hurts mmuch more to be cheated on