What would you do if the guy you've been going out with for the past three weeks confessed that he slept with someone else the day he met you. the excuse was he was drunk... I didnt want to do anything with him the day I met him at this party, cos I really liked him and wanted to see him again. In the early hours of the morning, the party was still going on and and friend of his invited me to dance. My guy starting dancing with this spanish girl,(because he was jelous of his friend he said) and before I left, he told me he'd call me during the week so we could go out. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and didnt ask about the spanish girl, until I heard some rumours....well, it turns out he slept with her. I felt gutted, but at the same time I didnt really care at all. He said he just wanted to be with me, I said i didnt look at him the same way.... The thing is I dont think I can trust him entirely. he's so nice to me, he's always hugging and kissing me and has even told me he cares a lot about me. I can tell he really wants to be with me.but... I just cant shake off the image of him and her together. By the way, we decided not to have sex until it felt right and got to know each other better. I just feel a bit weird that he didnt tell me about the girl before I learned about this somewhere else. He just said he was so happy with me he didnt want to spoil our relationship (?) do I believe in him?
Honestly, i don't consider that cheating... you said it was the first day you met him, right? So, unless he asked you to be his girlfriend that same night, it's not cheating. He was at a party, typically got drunk and it was more than likely he'd hook up with someone. I can see why he didn't want to tell you, if the girl was insignificent, then he'd see the moment also as insignificent. Basically, he doesn't care about her, he cares about you. If he had feelings for the other girl, he'd be with her right now and not you. I'd take his word for it. (Unless later revealed that he makes a habit of sleeping with random spanish girls while he's drunk)
I don't see anything wrong with what he did. You weren't even in a relationship with him at that point. You should let it go.
Sounds like it is more of the image of your man with someone else. I have never met my mans Ex's so I have no images of him with anyone. So since you have a FACE to put on an image of your man with someone else ,,that is what you cannot let go of. Just try to think that you have slept with other people ( I assume) and it happens ,,he doesn't like to think of you with another man either ya know . Embrass the fact thet he shows you affection and wants you. Some people do not have that so try to focus on the positive things about your man.
i guess I am a bit insecure about relationships, but I have now realised that I need to give myself the chance to be happy with someone. I've been in too many bad relationships and I think it's now time to start trusting and just enjoy the company of my boy. He's shown me his affection and respect towards me and that's enough for me to love him. As one of you mentioned the fact that I put a face to someone who had a moment with my boyfriend is what actually bothers me and you're right, if she was special he would've stayed with her and not try to go out with me in the first place. We're now so happy to be together it seems unreal. I just can't believe that in so little time I have found what I was looking for, a great guy who loves me and respects me for who I am. I dont have to pretend that I'm better than myself when I'm with him and that makes it a hell of a lot better. Thanks for everyone's comments
Ok... If your not going out it doesnt count. Thats about to the same extent as my ex girlfriends gettng pissed when I continue dating.
