Cheating Boyfriend

Hello,
I have a boyfriend and he’s gonna move to another city for 6 months. Don't think that I’m obsessed, but I don't want to lose him, because he’s my only love. Could you please help me and advise which app to choose to remotely keep an eye on him!? Maybe somebody use such apps? :unsure:

 

Sounds sketchy!

 

It is a long story to tell here. I'm just worried about his mooving and want to be sure he won't hurt me. My ex boyfriend cheated on me. It was painfull. I never want to feel it again. May be I'm a paranoic but it is better then be betrayed.

 

If u dont have trust, u dont have anything in a relationship. Sorry.

 

Being paranoid is not better than being betrayed. I've been through it before and it's better to live your life without worrying about it. Think about it this way...if he cheats on you...he's doing you a favor by showing you his true colors. Then you can dump him and move on. But if he hasn't cheated on you....you shouldn't hold him accountable for the actions of the last guy. I've been with a woman who did that too. It isn't fair and I'd dump a woman immediately if she started acting like that. I'm not putting up with that shit.

 

So basically you want to become your own personal NSA. I guess a girl's gotta have a hobby.

Try this before he leaves, instead of showing the vulnerable ready to fall into a million pieces version of the issue, take the opposite position and lay down the law. Let him know that you are not about to be put into that situation by anyone and if he's inclined to stray, he can just keep going and take his new STD's with him. People who sleep around are a risk group for diseases, just look to the CDC for the pitiful truth. In this day and age who can afford to have a mate that can't survive well enough on skype sex?

Just so you know, STD's, as bad as they are, are not the only things people spread. Imagine finding out you got the flu second hand.

 

You can't be sure he won't hurt you. You have to trust him.

How old are you? You sound very young and co-dependent on this fellow.

 

Not surviving 6 months away from him and worrying he will cheat...that is rough.

I have such app on my son's phone. I have it for two reasons, emergencies and if he "misplaces" his phone.

If I needed one for my boyfriend/lover...I'd have to seriously take a look at myself and ask why the hell was I putting myself through that! Just my opinion.

 

is he a cow?

 

^LOL!

 

I talked to my bf about my worries. And we quarrelled. He took offense that I did not trust him.
I know it is not right to spy on him. But this is the only way for me to be calm. I googled spying apps but there are plenty of them. And don't know what is really good. That's why I decided to ask here. I believe I'm not the first who want to use such app and I will be thankfull for you advices

What is the name of this app? Does it work good? Can you read you son's messages or see his call history?

We all understand that men are polygamous and there is no difference if he is a gay or straight. But it does not mean that it is normal when your bf cheats on you. It is very painfull to know that somebody betrays you.

 

Its the app for android. Android Device Manager.

It doesn't read messages.

 

My wife bought me a cell phone.

on her calling plan

How nice.

now all of my calls & texts can be monitored.

She also gave me an E Z pass for the car.

she pays the tolls

she also knows everywhere I go.

a real sweetheart.

 

You sound like a real catch. I would dump you if I were him. Wanting to read his messages and see his call history? And not all men or even most men are polygamous. People have a thing called self control. You should try to gain some of that and use it to stop spying on your boyfriend before he really does dump you. My wife would never try that shit with me and I'd never do it to her.

 

And this....too late to dump her but why do you put up with that shit? My wife and I are on the same cell phone plan and even if she did want to look at my call history....it would be of no use at all because there would be so many numbers she doesn't know and she knows I wouldn't be able to recall exactly who they were either. If she did come at me with that crap, I'd probably say something like "If you're that insecure and you want to know that bad....you have the list of numbers. Call them yourself and find out who they are....that way...you acting batshit crazy can be something everyone knows about!" And she would probably respond the same way if I was grilling her about her call history.

And...pro tip.....you don't always have to take the toll roads but she might just have GPS tracking on your car. Seriously...who fucking lives like this?

 

My ex was a stupid ass...I guess he didn't think I'd notice the 7000+ text messages in 20 days...all to the same number. He has proven the stupid ass part, over and over..hence the ex part!

 

I don't know, people who respond like you are just as scary to me as people who respond like the OP.

Having a fear of being cheated on sucks. And having someone invade your privacy sucks. But, personally neither one of your reactions are justified. It just makes an already disturbing, sad situation into a worse one.

 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with my response but....to be fair....I would probably never have to say something like that because I would never be in a relationship with someone who is so insecure. For the record, both my wife and I are kind people who would never hurt someones feelings on purpose but....with each other....we are much more blunt and to the point. We both appreciate that as one of the benefits of our relationship. We are secure, confident people who love each other very much and have no tolerance or need for passive-aggressive bullshit.

So...no....it's not scary. It's ideal (for us). And I actually brought this topic up to her yesterday and before I even got to the point I made in this thread she was like "What theee fuuuck? Maybe she should just call everyone on the list because....that's rational!" That's my girl!