i fell in love with my female friend who was 5 years older than me. we moved together and really loved each other. she knew that i was honest and i did trust her a lot especially because she was religious. after about 3 months a masturbated by thinking of another girl. we would still have sex almost everyday but when i was on my own i would masturbate by thinking of other girls which i met and found really sexy. that has gone worse when i got the internet home. i would just watch porn and look at photos of naked girls... though never thought of another girls while having sex with her. also throughout our 2 year relationship i have never kissed or hung out with another girl. just looked at them and fancied them like any other man(?) anyway after about a year we both realised things wouldnt work out for us. love towards ther other wasnt as stong as it used to be. there was still love but its was kinda love/friendship. beginning of this years we had planned to break up in the following months. at the end of last year she met another guy(as a friend). with who she fell in love. she went to see him some time by time and called him everyday which i recently found out. i still dont know if she has kissed or had sex with the guy. in june we separated. and as i still loved her i asked her to promise that none of us would kiss or sleep with another person for the next 3-4 months which we both agreed. after a month separation i found out she had gone straight to that guy and had sex with him straight away. now my question is who has cheated on who? -is it me because although i didnt have any real sex with another girl i masturbated all the time by thinking of other girls -or is it she because she broke the promise and slept with that guy right after we separated? -or is it again she because while going out and living together she fell in love with that guy? the worst thing is i think i can forgive my girlfriend but its so hard to forgive my real friend!!! please comment. thanks
Your relationship has been over for a long time Bro. None of the above really matters anymore. Move on and good luck in your search.
She fucked you over more so than you did her but none of what she did after you broke up should hold any weight in what you think of her. The only things that should hold weight are what she did while you were going out.
Your relationship has been over for a long time Bro. None of the above really matters anymore. Move on and good luck in your search. As quoted by Wizardrew77, Time to move on. You said it wasn't really that strong type of love anymore. Both of you have a right to find that special someone. Doesn't mean you can't stay friends, but, it might take some time to put the incidents behind you so that you can reconnect in a different light.
When you end a relationship it is done, and you cannot reasonably expect someone not to move on with there life. You can hope that maybe they will hold off for a little while so you can get over the break up, but to ask for it is setting yourself up to be disappointed. Learn from your past relationship, but move on.
thank you very much everyone. im still very confused by the way. i cant keep thinking about her. i actually do miss her a lot. for a month i have not contacted her because the new boyfriend doesnt want her to talk to me(because he is jelous apparently) i think i was ready to lose my girlfriend but i wasnt ready to lose my friend. but if she has lied to me and deleted all the messages for months, plus if she hasnt kept her promise she was not my real friend was she?
why is it that when a relationship moves beyond the romantic phase, people think the love is over? love doesn't stay that static, hyperactive fuck-bunny version forever. but when people move into their "best friend" phase, that's where real lasting relationships, free of fear and jealousy, develop? my mother in law married and divorced 4 times because she thought that that romantic excitement at the beginning of a relationship was love, and the companionability and calm that followed meant she wasn't in love anymore. what nonsense. anyway, it's all in the past. let it go and move on, next time realize that you can't ever reasonably expect anyone to wait before moving on just because you're not ready. a promise made like that is likely to be broken anyway.
I think that maybe you should move on and find another girl. It's time to close the relationship. Just do what I do and go with your heart.
If a guy and I broke up and he told me not to kiss or have sex with anyone for X amount of days or months, I'd punch him in the mouth. You don't own her, and that isn't your right. Her mama didn't raise a fool. No one has cheated. Masturbating isn't cheating. YOU ARE SEPARATED, so she can have sex with whomever she wants. I fell in love with someone while with someone else and didn't even touch the other guy. It is possible to have a soul connection aside from physical. Seriously, grow up.
