Cheated on my Boyfriend with two guys, should i tell?

It happened when he was away, i am from singapore. Does anyone had exp like this before? Ladies? Should i open up to my bf? Bad thing is it happened with his boss and one other guy. I am asian and my bf also. My bf loves me and introduced me to them at work dinner. Even that day his boss was into me i knew. Then it was my bad that i went to hangout with him when my guy was away. Ofcourse i feel attracted to him also. Early there was me and my girl friend. There was his boss and other guy. . Then it got late and my friend went back home. Later night me went to his place and ended up with two guys. I went to his place with him only, but that guy also joined when we were .... Thats my first time with two guys.

i am confused that should i open up to my guy? Does guys tell each other when stuffs like that happen? If my guy find out, i wanna be the one tell him.

 

I really hope you didn't get this late. Tell him my friend. He will be more than likely be devastated, you will feel like shit but you will be able to live with yourself in good conscious that you are honest with him. Yes guys are horrible too they talk.

I personally in my opinion would tell him he needs to find a woman who's honest and that as a woman I do not want to rob him the chance of having a faithful woman or make him feel obligated to stay with a woman who cheated on him. He deserves better right? You did something selfish, now correct that with something unselfish and tell him the truth , otherwise you are adding more to the selfishness. If he decides to forgive you then you will have some serious changes to make for him, would you be willing to do that? He has the upper hand in the relationship now (you are not on a level plain) are you willing to wait for time to heal from what you've done?

 

I have not told him yet and he has no idea. May be his boss isnt telling him

 

Good. Don't wait too long. It's better he hears it from you. You do not want him to have trust issues with women in the future if he dumps you. The more you wait the more damage this will bring on him and your conscious. Basically my dear friend it's called damage control. Remember he's also got those evil men he's working with who are taking advantage of him right now (assuming he's working with them) you don't want him to suffer unknowingly about that too right?

I really want you to basically have peace of mind in this and your boyfriend too regardless of the outcome of you sharing this with him. Peace of mind and no more drama in the future with him is key. It's part of growth and being that mature woman. When after this you still have unresolved issues or nagging feelings you can go forth without damaging him any more and your spirit. I trust you will do the right thing and grow from this experience. I know this is not an easy thing to just dismiss and forget about and hope it will go away. It won't peaceably unless your are a sociopath (I doubt that). I also believe in the end you will find a man who'll love you and satisfy you mentally and physically and will be good for your spirit, but you gotta work this out and clear your heart and mind of this and make it right.

 

Eh, the situation is problematic.... If you tell him you most likely loose him and his trust. Maybe he is going to stop working for that person, and his self esteem could be greatly damage (he could think that you looked around because he is not able to satisfy you). Either way the event could easily come up. The boss could tell him that you are not a good girl... Or the boss could leverage the fact that you cheated on him and use it to have more sex. If you tell him he would probably appreciate the honesty...and if you guys care about each other then you should be working hard on regaining his trust. Not an easy situation, I would probably be sincere but expect the worst. This is the sofference that was hiding in that night of pleasure. Best of luck.

 

It'll be tough because you bf can take it either way but I think the best thing to do is be honest with him.

It's better you tell him and explain your side of the story than him hearing it from his work mates, in office gossip or the boss himself.

You made a silly mistake but you can try to make it right.

 

It has been almost three months since last time i post here. At the first time i slept with his boss,i knew something will happen or deep down i wanted to as i like him and i feels he knew also. Here if asian girl sleep with foreign men not good like they gossip but girls kind of like them deep down. That is why first time i do not want to dare go alone and called my friend. Later at night after drunk, my feeling towards go turn on and when he approach to kiss me i kissed him back and yes my fault that i went down on him. Then he did me soo hard for like 1hr straight then i fell asleep at his place. Then in the night he started doing me again i thought but it was that other guy and when i knew i did not stop him and his boss also join and end up one in mouth and one in other. I am so caught up in the moment that i even let him finished on my face like in porn movies i never did before.
Then he did not even call me for like 2 weeks, deep down i feel embarrassed then he calls me to have dinner with me. Honestly i feel so turn on with him and i went. After dinner i slept at his place again. The sex with him is undeniably great, its like soo good and i feel want him stop but want him to keep going(only ladies would know). He hold my waist with his one hand and another one pulling my hair and do me so hard make me cum a lot. Even when i cum he kept doing and i cum again. he likes finishing on my face a lot like him movies. Even at the second time he ask for dinner he so confident that he know he can have me and kiss me right away when we get back into the car, strip my clothes and cuff my hands.
Sometimes he even use rope to my neck at his place to me. Everything is new to me that he do.
Now as my guy work for him, everytime he has to go other side of town occasion comes he often calls me to meet and ended up he screwing me.
I feel bad for my bf though that his girl has been getting f***** hard by another man his cum on my face always and no idea. Now his boss says want to date me and want me to take to his friends party and events as his gf and i do not know that i can trust him or not, only sure i like him. With my bf we have future i know but i will leave him for his boss if we can do long term and marry in future. In foreign cultures do they marry another girls with different? I am thai girl.I know i sound too selfish!!!

 

If you feel ashamed about having sex with another, then tell him and hope he's understanding. If you don't feel ashamed about it, don't say anything. I've had sex with many other ppl in the time I've been married to my wife. I'm not the least bit ashamed about doing it. For the most part, it's with other men. It fulfills a sexual desire my wife will never be able to.