Met a nice boy, seemed really into me. Sweet, put a lot of time into getting to know me, then suddenly seemed to lose interest, BUT hasn't called things off. In fact, we've been getting "closer", but I'm infamously a "prude", so I've insisted on taking things slow as hell. I have been vaguely happy, if a little paranoid... ...until now... Last night I discovered at about the same time that two of my online mates think that this guy is interested in THEM. I suspect I'm being played - which, as a gay man, I've done well to avoid thus far. I feel rather sick, and I've taken a few too many showers to calm down. Should I try to resolve the issue, sit down and talk, or eb on the side of caution and just dump him like a pistachio shell?
awwww, that sucks mate. i think it depends how much you like him. I mean, if you didn't say you wanted to be exclusive, and you still do, then maybe you could have a really casual chat about how he feels about keeping it just the two of you. If he's not keen, at least you'll have insight. If he is you will know that either he is interested or, if he says he is and then you find out that he is still flirting/playing with others, then you will know where you stand: i.e. you can get rid of his ass, file him under A for Asshole and then go get a big hug from someone supportive (i'll send you an internet one from Welly right now though ) good luck, hope things turn out sweet.
nah man. this is a classic case of "Plan B Status". Sophie, you should be familiar with this thanks to Rosie and Dickface. Basically, he's juggling three people, knowing that if he fails with one, he's still got at least two more to perhaps get action from. All of you are Plan B in case Plan A (anyone else) doesn't work out. Man... if he's not interested in you enough to be totally and fully into you, he's not worth it. Dump his ass like a fat shit in a toilet bowl. He's not worth it.
Yeah, I basically did that. Thing is, we had both made it pretty fucking clear that the lack of 'making it exclusive' in the gay world was giving us both head-aches and that we wanted to be 'just two'. I'm working on second chance and ignoring what might or might not have happened now - but it's getting messy. Bah! I'd say I want my mummy, but she's here, and she's here too much and too long, and she snores! Here's to the 13th! Seriously thinking on that Tamsyn... ...I have being a naive little boy.:& Nice boys don't exist in this town.
yeah, that's true. Because that's true though, you can't assume that anyone wants to be exclusive - you have to actually discuss it.
Does sharing our views adamantly count as discussion relevant to our situation? I don't know. Consistency is lacking in everyone's mentality anyway.
