Changes!

How do I increase the chances of getting responses to my online dating messages? I have gotten some, but I maybe get a response to 1 out of 25 messages.

One time I made a fake profile as a girl, and got over 100 messages in less than two hours. What can I say that makes me stand out any more than these other guys?

I am on two different sites. One is pof.com, a dating site, and the other is fling.com, a hookup site.

Other than improve my profile pictures, what can I do?

Here's my standard introductory message: Hello. My name is (my name). You look like a pretty cool person. I like your (something from their profile). How are you today? "

And what if their profile says "just ask," so there is nothing to reference to, no question to ask about their profile or comment to make?

Are there any girls/women on this forum that have been on these sites? What messages compel you to respond?

And I will end this post the same way I end all my posts on this site. Can we please refrain from sarcastic comments, if possible.

 

Use a picture of Pressed Rat on your profile page.

 

A sarcastic comment from a hippie? On this site? Who would have thought?

 

I was gonna say, be a woman, haha
But you proved my point anyway.
Problem is we don't respond or go flagging guys like guys do for women.
It's like sex and nearly everything else. We don't always care to be the aggressor.
I met my guy on POF and he got one first date with a woman who was absolutely nuts. I got hoards of first time dates, some were nuts some were ok some were nice but didn't quite feel like a match for me.
On POF I had about 50 matches, done by the site, I said to the site "I'd date him" with the click of a button and they said they'd date me so the site let's you know there was a match. My BF said he got one match. Most other guys said similar, those I met

 

I know that the guy has to send the first message. But what can I say in a first message that will increase the chances of getting a response?

And what if I'm on fling.com, just trying to f*** as many girls as possible?

 

What would YOU say in a first message?

 

I can't coach that because it would be what I would say for you.

The right woman will like what you say, trust me. If you try the roses and wine kinda thing they might just see you as all the rest. I went for guys who seemed original and had lots to say, those who said "Ask me" got by passed.
Some guys even went and read other guy's stuff and it was like reading twins.
Just be yourself is all I can give you.

 

No but I mean on the girls profile, if it says "ask me," what should I ask?

 

How can I make a conversation interesting? Other than the standard, where aer you from? What do you do for fun? What do you do for work, etc.?

 

keep it simple and talk about one of her hobbies. If she likes hiking and you love your couch then don't waste her time or yours. Don't go for the look only, I know it's important but similar interest are important. I was on POF and went on over 50 dates in about 6 months. My brother had bad experiences so I put that I wanted to meet sooner than later to see face to face. A lot of people us old photos and this way you can rule them out. I tried different wording and found that changing it often got more replies. Check out the "looked at your profile" feature and use that. They looked so talk to them. There are tons of crazies on either side so just keep trying. I even got inquiries to being the third in some pretty fun situations but that is just not me. Last is be honest because lying gets you no where unless you are just looking for sex and then lie all you want.

 

what the hell is the roses and wine kinda thing?

not necessarily. i've certainly known some women who seem to love it when their long-term boyfriends lie to them.

 

dick pic

 

poor lonely crazy people

 

How many recent changes are you aware of? What happened?! hahaha

Something big happened and now a bunch of things are changed, changing and moving. There's so many things in my little world that I'm counting on my second hand!


http://youtu.be/pl3vxEudif8

How to embed videos now that the site is changed?

 

Awesome, thanks!

 

I'm pretty sure I have mild aspergers

I don't like change


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fVHr5T5HO2I

 

computers have consiousness, that must be it .. they are alive in their own way

 

probably the more posts you have/ years you have been here, the more awkward the transition. I'm stuggling with the transition too, but probably not as much as you are. Kind of wishing we had the old forum forever, but i know why i'm thinking that way.

It's like moving to a new home. Some things are pretty much the same, but you knew exactly where everything was in the old place, and you knew the neighborhood. So if you've lived in the same home for 60 years, you don't want to go to the old folks home because you're not ready for the changes.

You may have been a ninja on the old forum, but now you get to feel what it's like to be a newb again.

I know the changes are probably going to be good for the forums (like being more smart phone accessible), but still nostalgic for the old site.

We'll probably all be back into the swing of things in a month or two.

 

as far as i could tell, that's all it took on the old site too. not sure why people liked to make it so complicated.