This is probably the most embarrassing topic for most guys, but hey the internet is anonymous. I'm a teenage male and having trouble getting an erection for my girlfriend. It is not a problem when im by myself. Today is the second time it happened to me. She tried pretty much everything, but my dick only got semi-hard not enough for sex. I'm physically fit and was not on any drugs at the time other than weed. I'm also a tobacco smoker. Also I've masturbated almost abusively in the past could this have something to do with it? Please help me out with this one
If it works on your own, it has to be a psychological problem. Have you had this problem before, or is it a one off?
I think it's clearly psychological. I had this problem, too, when I was young and inexperienced. I was extremely concerned that I was man enough to please a woman. I was scared shitless of failing to please and being rejected as a result. It was a very bad case of performance anxiety. My pattern was I couldn't get it up the first time with each new woman. But if she was nice and invited me back for a second time, I did much better. Do you think that's true of you?
Just relax I have the same problem sometimes if I have a lot on my mind.......... The big head and the little head are not in synch
Just relax...do whatever you can to please her without intercourse..fingers, tongue..just focus on her pleasure..and when you quit worrying about getting hard..you will get hard. I was in a 3 year relationship with a girl and the first couple of times I had the same problem. She was worried that it was her..so make sure your girl knows it has nothing to do with her..except that you badly want to please her. So after a few times of being together I quit worrying about it...she was awesome about it...especially since I gave her lots of pleasure..and I not only started getting hard...but getting harder..and longer and thicker...and lasting longer. Her patience paid off for both of us!!:sunny:
happens to the best of us; not to worry, but I'd quit smoking and go easy on the porn/masturbation; I agree is mental, brain plays tricks on us...
My bets are on nerves, too much porn, and perhaps a lack of attraction. Secondary guesses would be fear and a feeling of being forced into something that doesn't fit you... But if you get hard by yourself, your physiology is probably fine, and this is a mind-thing, which either you, or someone with a lot more information will have to figure out.
