Can't cum during a blowjob

Well everyone I have a slight predicament. My girlfriend gives me amazing blowjobs, but no matter what she does, no matter how long she goes, no matter how good it feels or anything I just won't cum during a blowjob, and I have had the same experience with another girl before where I could't cum.

The thing is if I have intercourse I can go and go and control myself, but I can still let myself go pretty much whenever I wish, even at the begining of intercourse, just not while during a blowjob. Anybody have any idea what the deal is, I love this but I wanna cum during a blowjob, and she wants me to too!!

Thanks.

 

I had the same problem. Except I would just never cum during sex, ever.

Then after awhile of having sex my body got more used to it and it became natural. The reason I couldn't cum during a blowjob was for the same reason. Maybe you should just relax and let it happen? Or maybe your body needs to get used to sex in general? Or, maybe she isn't as good as you think (and neither was the other girl, it happens). It can still feel great and not be good head.

My 2 cents. Maybe it helps a little.

 

You're not alone dude. I don't understand it either, but I was the same way with my ex girlfriend. I couldn't cum when she gave me head. I mean I think in a way I might of psyched myself out from the very beginning though. I couldn't cum the first time and she obviously wanted me to and was disappointed when I said I didn't think I could. To be honest I was drunk, but I remember thinking that it felt real good until I slowly realized, wow this is taking long. Then I realized, holy shit, I don't even think I might cum at all! Then from that point on it wasn't even enjoyable because all I could think about was "why am I taking so long?!???!?"

We still had sex but from that point on, she was never very enthusiastic about giving me head, she thought she was bad at it or something. And when we would try again I would just become really self-conscious and the thought of not cuming would always be in the back of my mind. It was quite embarrassing honestly.

 

Actually i was like that today. It felt great but it took a while for me to cum, about 20-25 minutes. I think its because it is slower and softr than sex or a handjob. I eventually came though. You know when you are going to cum but you dont want to so you hold it back? When she gives head, hold it back even though you dont feel like you are going to cum, then tell her to go a bit faster or harder, and if you hold it long enough you will feel the ned to cum and you will. Worked for me anyway

 

some thing with me. ive never come off of head

 

let her take you as far as you feel she can, then jack it a little, until you get near to `that` point then let her finish you off. if she wonders why you are taking over, tell her it turns you on to see the expression on her face as she`s waiting for the goodies... or that you want to get a good look at her titties to send you over the edge.

or you could just ask her to mix up the mouth action with a little hand-play get her to play with your balls as well, if she grabs them both and tugs gently downwards it`ll feel great, as will if she puts pressure with a finger or two, on the area between the balls and your ass (perinium)- if she rubs this quite vigorously while sucking it might help you get there.
hope this helps .

 

Maybe you should just give it more time. I got head about an hour ago while standing up, took half an hour until i was ready to cum. One minute i didnt feel like i would at all, then the next i was just about to bust a nut. It takes longer while standing as well, at least it does for me.

 

I feel like this is a personal challenge. Blitz, Neuro and Icktongo, come on over.

 

Yeah, I think this is a common issue with many men. Personally, I enjoy the BJ and then jack myself off a little while I watch my girl. When I feel myself about the cum, we go back to oral. It seems to work.

 

My only other advice is to not cum for a couple of days before she gives you head. You should be able to cum much quicker that way, it would also feel much better.
I also heard it helps if you wank a couple of times on the day you are goin go get head, but dont do it to the point of ejaculation, instead do it until you feel like you are going to cum and then stop. Should make it easier.

Thats all the advice i got tbh.

 

Ya it sometimes takes me a while to cum while getting head but my advice is to just keep going, it might just take time.

 

I got my first blowjob from my boyfriend(don't judge) today. For some unknown reason I could not cum at all. It was sucking on me for at least 10-15 minutes and it felt so good. I love him but I how he doesn't think differently of me now.

 

I've never been able to climax as a result of Oral Sex. Come to that, I rarely manage to climax, directly as a result of any kind of sex. I nearly always have to take over near the end & bring myself to the brink from self masturbation, and then continue with what we were doing when I feel myself about to peak.

Perhaps things will change in that department now that I've been circumcised.

 

my last girlfriend wasnt all that great at it, even though i liked it. there were times where i knew i probly wouldnt for a long time, but you have to focus on what they are doing and want to cum i guess. dont know any other way to put it.

or you can try the infamous 69 lol that will do the trick for sure

 

I have a better chance at winning the powerball than blowing my load from oral sex. I'm lucky if I cant get some head for more than 2 minutes or 4 minutes, my girl wont take any lessons (from the internet) and I think she doesnt know what I like besides her mouth being on it and moving up and down. Gawd I hate lazy head.

SMH at my sexual frustrations.

 

Sounds to me like you guys have partners that don't know how to suck cock properly. No way it should take that long to blow a load from a blowjob, unless you want it to take that long.

 

hey its better than nothing, i dont even have a gf

 

I guess so, well, you'll eventually find one.

 

I can't cumulative either from a bj. I have 3times in my life and that was doing 69. I'm fine otherwise. So its a mental thing.

 

least you came from sort of oral gratification. I've NEVER had a woman good enough nor suck long enough, better yet, care enough for me to get to that point.