Can you leave state with your kids

Anyone know if you can move to a new state with your kids if youre not divorced?? I need to get away from my abusive husband ,, any legal advice out there?

 

yes you can leave state with yur children it is not kidnapping it is called parenting. But before you leave the state get a lawyer and stay over at a freinds house or a relatives house. let the lawyer know exactly what has been going on and if you have any evidence (hospital papers,pictures, etc) bring taht with you. What you should do is file for divorce ASAP!!! if you want to double check what i have said call a local lawyer and say you have a question or two and i am sure that they would be more than happy to answer. good luck hun and let me know how things are.

much love to you and your lil ones.

FF

 

not without husband's consent, then it is parental kidnapping (depends on your state laws, though) unless you have already been court awarded sole custody of the children. Talk to a lawyer ASAP, and file papers to cover your butt. Or, just plan a trip to visit relatives make sure everyone you know knows that he knows you are going so he can't make the claim that you just ran off without his knowledge. Seek out your local women's shelter, they can help keep you hidden and also point you in the right way to get legal and psychological assistance. ((((((hugs))))))

 

good advice , thanx mama boogie

 

Totally get a lawyer and file your papers. It'll keep you covered just in case.



Even after my parents divorce, neither of them could leave the state with my sister and/ or I without first consenting the other and having written permission (as per their divorce agreement to keep parental kidnapping under control....my dad was convinced my mom would take us to NY....where she's from).

 

info on shelters and protecting yourself in Oklahoma


HTH
you are in the most danger when you try to leave

 

I think it's crappy that a parent can't move(for whatever reason) even out of the county without either written permission from the other parent or risk losing the kids. What is this? Saudi Arabia?

I don't understand how it's construed as kidnapping. I gave birth to my daughters and the law recognizes me as their mother. I feed them, clothe them, kiss their booboos, read them stories, and tuck them in at night.....yet I can go to jail if I leave the county(let alone state) without getting consent from their "father"?

It's BS. Parents should be allowed to live wherever they want and the other parent should just deal with it. It's called being an adult.

Of course, I'm also bitter that while I'm a parent 100% of the time and my ex is only a parent for 4 days a month(that's all the time he wants to spend with them)..the law gives him equal say in their lives. WTFery!

 

I heard the same thing when my parent's got divorced. My mom wanted to take us to BC, and me and my sister wanted to go too, but the court said that unless we had permission from our father, we couldn't leave Alberta.
Of course, he said no, we had to stay, but then he actually made my mom pay him when he was supposed to have us. Then he said that he would take her to court if she didn't bring us. He's just a money-hungry creep.
It's absolutly stupid, but yes, get a lawyer. Soon. Have proof of the abuse, no matter what you have to do to get it...if not, there is no chance at all of you guys being able to move away from it.

 

sounds like you guys have really similar laws as us when it comes to this....one of those situations where I think they need to start treatng every case as individual and not try and cover every situation with one law.