Can You and your S/O express your desires without ...

being afaid of any negitive repercussions? Years ago we agreed that we could ask Anything. Doesn't mean we had to it, but the subject was on the table for discussion. Don't be afaid to ask. The last thing I expected my wife to ask me was to let her/our old gay friend suck my cock. I thought that was a strange request for my wife to make of me. Letting him give me a bj was a request I might have expected, but when she asked me if I would return the favor and she wanted to watch was the strangest request but not entirely unexpected.
Were there any desires that were Refused?

 

We can discuss anything without any drama or bullshit hopping off. We haven't denied or refused each other anything and nothing is considered to be out of bounds. She had wanted to (a) have a foursome, (b) watch me suck cock, and (c) fulfill her desire to eat pussy and I made it happen; she wanted to be a swinger and this was nothing new to me so denying or refusing didn't make sense and we did so without any restrictions or inhibiting things. If you want to make and keep your woman happy, you don't deny her anything and no matter how "weird" something sounds...

 

You are living the life that many of us dream of.

 

@KDaddy23 you are a lucky guy!

 

It's easy when we both realize that we have nothing to hide and nothing to be ashamed of and, oh, yeah - we're both grown-assed adults who don't believe in the crap that stifles marriages and other relationship and inhibits communication. She wanted to do those things and all I said was, "Okay - let's make it happen." And the way you keep her happy and not out cheating on you is to give her what she wants and needs.

 

That's the way to do things

 

Nope! My wife would never in a hundred years be comfortable with my bisexuality. She has stated that since she no longer wants sex, she doesn’t want to know how I solve the dilemma of a sexless marriage. She would rather keep her head in the sand and not have to deal with it.

 

And most guys would be happy if she didn't want to know how the dilemma gets solved...

 

What a woman. These days my wife gets annoyed if the subject is raised, and more annoyed if my dick is raised. She and I agreed 20 plus years ago that I could get my sex on the side. If it were a woman she was upset, I did try, but when MM sucking and play started, she was OK with it. I wanted to be open and honest with her. I'm so frustrated now and I'm 70 but it is time I talked about it again.

 

When I met the woman that would become my wife she was giving a guy a blow job, she saw me watching and didn’t stop.

After he came he zipped up and walked away, walked over to me without a word she kissed me. We’ve always been able to express our desires.

 

well said!

 

Nothing is out of bounds when trust and communication is mutual and bonded. We're adults, and like KDaddy stated, there's nothing to be ashamed of. If you're willing to keep each other happy, and not cheat, it's not a hard request.

 

Yeah but sharing and bisexuality are not for everyone.
There might be a lot of like minded people here that have a place to discuss this and while many couples might have some fantasy or desire to do XYZ not everyone can open up about it and I think across the board there will be one person in the majority of relationship s that does not want to explore these things.
Next hurdle is to find people to explore with.
Dropping a bomb in a gathering of close friends is not always going to get the best result .
If your bond is great enough you might have a friend who will stick by you after telling you they are not hooking up .
Finding a unicorn, a fuck buddy or couple to swing with is probably like winning the lottery unless you gather where these people gather.b

 

I've seen in several posts like this, that many don't have the support that they need on this area. So I get it. However, there's other ways to find those fwb, fuck buddies, etc. You just have to do the leg work. It's still a hurdle tho. Especially on your comfort level, method of searching, etc.