Hey guys, so im an 18 yo male and bisexual and recently i came out and also confessed my feelings to a guy i was friends with about two months that i was in love with him. I liked him for the longest time and could have sworn he felt the same, however, he is also a year younger and still in highschool so i knew he wouldnt tell me if he was. Alot of people think hes gay which also fueled my thoughts but whatever. So anyways, he freaked out on me completely and unfollowed me on everything but im so confused now because even though he was like "omg im tellin everyone' (im friends with all his friends) he didnt tell one person about what i told him even after flipping a shit.....and now last night he followed me on twitter again. Is this weird as hell or what Im so confused. thanks guys
well, there's really not much you can do. he needs to figure things out for himself. don't judge him by his initial reaction, but also give him some time to get used to the knowledge of you being bi and liking him. someone confessing their feelings out of the blue can produce quite a counter-reaction in anybody.
I would tone down your rhetoric here ASAP. Declaring same sex love to a 17 year old boy is possibly very different from practically enjoying being in love with him. Once pronounced such love declarations take a life of their own, and develop some sense of finality about them. More likely than not, your friend saw your outright declaration of love as something that will reach everybody via FB and Twitter. He saw himself as being branded as gay. (The fact that people were "talking" was one thing. Now, another male fell in love with him, AND said so... well, that adds quite some weight to the whole theory, doesn't it?) Sure, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being gay. Yet, not everyone is willing to come out at the time chosen by the others. Or possibly not at all. You are 18. Your friend is 17. You simply lack life experience. You are likely to imagine things that may happen since you have no actual experience to base your expectations upon. And imagination may be very much fear-fueled... KD
