Can anyone tell me how NOT to be inloved with a girl?

This is my story:Until 3 years ago,I was wheight 120 Kg.I was staying all the day in my house,playing at PC,and I didnt talked to anyone at school.
I started to loose wheight,and now I wheight 82 Kg and my height is 1.80 m.So I look ok.But I still stay all the day indoors,and never talk to anyone.I am to shy to have a girlfriend,and I was never good at anything,so I think I will be lousy at sex also(with only a 14 cm penis...).
Anyway,I will be ok If I will remain virgin for life.The problem is that I have a crush on a girl and I dont want to.I have heard of guys that loved some girls,and they fell in depression because they did't knew what to do and kill themselves.
Can anyone tell me how to not get inloved ?So I will never love a girl/women.

PS:In my account the birthdate is 1980.I am actually born in 1990(typing mistake).I do have 18 years thow.
Forgive my lousy english.Its not my natal language.

 

good luck with that.

what's wrong with loving someone?

 

I never said its wrong to love someone.LOL.
It was my incompetence that made me decide that LOL.
I don't want you to believe that I said its wrong to love someone.

 

All you need is love,maybe you dont know the real love,just the deppressive one.
Theres many kinds of love,that includes happiness.The thing is that you should fall inlove in right ppl,not in the stupid sluts,be yourself and the love will come to you.

 

girls fuck minds

 

Yeah...:cheers2:

 

Yea, I once had one.
I hope to regain it again someday.

 

Better off without i.m.o. Serious relationships at a young age are a danger.
I made the mistake of convincing myself I'd found 'my other half' (after a few relationships) before I'd even found myself.
Independence was practically none existent when it ended; and the side serving of mind fuck material from the ex in question further knocked the confidence - opening my mind to all kinds of truths. A lot of self acceptance took place, internal bridges were rebuilt and life ticked on.
Learnt through experience never to put myself in the position of taking anything for granted and settling down before foundations are concrete.
I'm much stronger now, have only benefitted from the break up and am now thankful it ended.

 

I I find a way to never get inloved,I wont have that problem.Sex is not a think that I really want,so no probs.(as inhuman as it sounds,it makes sense for me )

 

Seems like it's the closeness you want, the want or need for someone there. You can still maintain a healthy friendship with a girl without the need to fuck her or be more than friends. A little introspection can be the key. I'd advise finding yourself before looking for someone else, because otherwise there's a good chance it'll lead to emotional insecurity which could (and probably would) lead to other problems such as doubt or trust issues. Just try and build some confidence man. You could start by getting out and experiencing life outside the four walls you seem to cage yourself in.

 

Lead me?I have them already.:hat:
PS:From the advices that I want(topic name)to this.A long shot.LOL.
Nah,never mind.

 

well in that case read the bit i typed after that.
get active.
stop lazing about and staying in doing nothing.
experience the outside world.
gain confidence and a bit of pride.
hell knows you don't have it already.

i see you chose to put this point completely aside.

 

Thats imposible.I can easily fell inlove.I want to be alone all my life.To be totally separated by humans(even men could make me think about sex,in the way that I will see them with their girlfriends).
After I finish highschool,I hope I will be able to make a load in the bank and buy an apartment.Maybe I will find a joc that I will do at my PC,or at least a night job somewhere quiet,where I can avoid peoples.0 interaction is what I want.And I want to escape all these suicidall thoughts.When I was fat I had tons of reasons to kill myself.Many of them do persist now.If there wont be for PC games,I would go crazy.

 

Well then, if you stand by what you say and are being genuine, one blatantly obvious question springs to mind. Why in the name of sod's law are you communicating with other human beings right now?! I don't condone your intentions but I have no intention on tyring to tell you to be different; that's your call. I can tell you that no interaction with other human beings during an entire lifetime is bit of a mad and pretty much unreal concept.

I notice, yet again, you fail completely to respond to the last section of my third response to your thread.

Maybe you should try and substitute gaming for exercise.
Maybe you should try using your mind instead of blocking constructive thought out and giving in to the current dillema you're obviously in.

Hate something, change something..

 

Oh yeah, WHY are you asking if anyone can tell you how NOT to be involved with a girl?!
Looks like you're doing a pretty good job of that already...

 

Just as the tread was,I asked if anyone knows a way to not fall inlove with a girl.You can fall inlove and...well you know the tread.
I asked if anyone knows how not to get inloved.I know it was a long shot,because that might seem inposible to answer,but I gave it a try.
BTW,I am not comunicating in real life,but active in virtual one.I am very active on some atheist forums.On forums I have time to think,its not the same as real life.

You also said in the other reply,why do I ignore what you told me about getting my ass out.That is because I didn't asked for help on how to socialize.
Did you saw me telling on the tread how can I stop being that shy?I dont think so.

 

soo many good girls need love in this world....why separating us from the world outside???

 

Didn't you read my tread?Its not that I want to ignore them because I dont like them.Its because I won't have any luck any way.Its imposible for me to be liked by a girl(im not ugly but...well,read the tread).
So I want to avoid falling inlove,because I wont be able to do anything about that.Maybe just to fall into a depresion af some sort

 

Oh sweetheart that is not true. Not all women judge on looks, your so young. I just think you need to have fun with what your doing now. Love will come to you if it is ment to. I think you should embrace yourself and not put yourself down. It doesn't do you any good, how do you believe a women will not fall in love with you. We aren't all physco bitches with fire hair and twisting heads. Many are genuine, but I wouldn't worry about this at your age. You are only 18 years old, no need to rush it. Love is something that in my opinion can't be avoided.


Tiffany

 

What does genuine means?