Can A Woman Teach A Boy How To Be A Man???

and vice versa, can a man teach a girl how to be a woman???

 

I really think it's much, much, much easier for a boy to learn to become a man from other men. I think a woman can help a boy learn to become a man, but she can't do it all by herself. Similarly, I think a man can help a girl learn to become a woman, but he can't do that all by himself either.

Having said that, I think that a woman who wants to help a boy in such a situation deserves a lot of credit.

As a man, I can say that I believe that boys pick up on things from adult men as role models...not just their fathers and other adult male relatives, but all sorts of men out there. Boys need close and healthy relationships with good men, and they need to be around other boys as well.

A boy who has a mother and father living with him all the time doesn't even learn all that he learns about being a man just from his parents. So don't knock yourself for trying to do what you can do. No one person teaches any boy to be a man, and no one person teaches any girl to be a woman.

 

It's take a village to raise a child. That's what I was thinking last night when I first saw this topic--but I wasn't sure if that was the answer you were looking for or not. I agree, though...I've learned a lot about being a man from my dad, but did he teach me everything that made me the person I am today? No! My mom taught me some, a few great teachers have taught me a lot, and a few close friends have taught me a lot, too!

 

well, if you're talking about honesty, integrity, and honoring others, then the gender of the teacher is irrelevant. It's all about being a role model who walks the walk. But, yeah, like Midget says, it takes everyone of both genders. Personally, I think the more you expose a kid to, and then get them to talk about their thoughts and reactions, the more they'll learn to think for themselves and the more they'll be able to process the meaning of their interactions with others, and the more they'll have confidence in who they are. Then there won't be any of this crazy stuff we have now of trying to legislate kindness in the schools vs. bullying, and making sure no one is allowed to express hate. Hate is destructive for sure, but if it's there, but just forced into discretion by legislation and rule makers, then it hasn't really gone away....it's just gone underground. Kids need to learn why hatred hurts the hater as much as the hated.

 

Just today I realized the importance of teamwork...I mean, people always talked about how important it was - but something was just missing for me. But today - more like last night - I thought about it. Then I realized you can't look to one person in a team for all the answers. Everyone has their own strengths, weakenesses, qualities, uniquinesses, etc...so we have to all come together, and draw from eachother's knowledege and experience. I think this applies to teaching someone how to be what you want them to be. If you soround yourself and that person with people that you would like them to turn out like, their values will most likely be passed on. And the result will be the child you want, respect, and love. It's a big team effort...that's how I see it at least!

 

I don't think so. I think boys need men to teach them to be men, and girls need women to teach them to be women.

 

This sounds like a loaded question that is designed to make Brown's slutty ways justifiable.

 

Right on Midget, well said. having escaped an incredably negative scene when my son was three, its been just the two of us for the last almost 14 years. We have had one and only one rule his entire life...respect, for yourself, others, the planet, life...he has grown in to quite a remarkable young man. But, I have made a point through the years to make sure he had good 'brothers' around because I was worried about the same thing...also as important if not more so, making sure negative people (not gender based) had the least effect (affect?) other than as good examples of how not to be...also good lessons in tolerance, but I digress
I do agree that on certain levels and at certain ages/phases of growth a child realy does learn better from a person of the same gender. its human nature.

 

well my mother tries to teach my brother how to be a man and he still doesn't get it. that's probably because my dad's not really around though. he never really cared. anyway, i think it's possible but much more difficult, time consuming, and frustrating as hell.

 

Boys usually end up more like the dominant male figure in their lives. This person can be anyone, but is usually the boy's father. In my case, I didn't know my father, and learned lots of stuff from my uncles and grandfather. I turned out like them in a lot of ways. My mother's thinking and actions never made much sense to me, and I am now almost the complete opposite of my conservative mother. So I'd say it takes a special kind of lady to raise a boy into a man, and some help along the way.

 

yeah a woman can teach a boy to be itself!