Busted by parents

Yeah, sucks a lot. I came home last night, walked in the door and my mom was on the couch laying down, I was making some food. Mom got up and came to the kitchen, we were taking and making food, then she walked over and she smelled me, she said she smelled dope and asked me if I had been smoking dope, I told her the truth. She asked me how long I have been smoking and I told her "about a year", she was shocked. she took me upstairs and talked to dad about it. They made me feel the most guilty I had ever felt in my life, they both cried and it sucked a lot. I respect them and love them enough to stop until I move out, but I told them I love to smoke weed, and its a part of me. They couldnt even understand. All the trust is broken, and it sucks. Dad tells all his friends and co-workers how good of a son I am all the time and how he trusts me, now thats completly gone.

Shit.

 

Fuck!

 

thats b/s

 

man that bites.

 

my mom did the same thing when she found out, cried so hard, to make matters worse i had to talk to her about it all when i was on shrooms, i think the only reason she didn't notice is cuz she was crying and so upset, later i ended crying the hardest i've ever cried in my life, my face swelled up and shit it was terrible. but now things are good, if you just give it time man and earn their trust back things will be alright, they really care about you is why they're so upset but i'm sure you knew that =) hope all goes well for ya

 

yea bro my parents found out last night when the got a call from the sheriff explaining that their son had been arrested for the ganj.. the hardest part for me was the feeling of letting them down, and now they have no trust in me and ive had a lot of shit taken away from me.. in a way i think its good that they know now and i can talk about it with them... but all those tears were just terrible

 

I don't see why so many people feel guilty about the trust thing, unless you haven't lied to your parents in years, you've broken their trust before.

Which leads me to life lesson number 1, the truth is not always the best option.

 

The "purpose" of feeling guilty when you see your mother cry when you lie to her is not to make it easier the next time.

The truth may not always be the best option, but your parents are the people most likely to care about you, until you have your own kids.

 

Your parents will probably care for you more then anyone else, but it doesn't make them always right.

 

Why feel guilty? You all didn't do anything wrong. You are the same people as before you were found out. If your relations never noticed anything amiss for a year - what could possibly be so bad? If they can't handle the truth ( the truth that you're your own person, the truth that weed isn't so bad, the truth that you smoke it) well that's their problem not yours. I commend you for admitting it straight up though, you got principal bro.

 

My recommendation is to try to educate your parents as to the qualities of weed.

And don't experiment with anything else, at least until you move out on your own.

It's normal for young people to experiment with mind-altering activities, whether it be drugs or religion or ???
It's also normal for parents to set rules, and for their kids to "test" them.

Be glad your parents are concerned about you, ill-informed tho they may be.
I know a girl, a very sweet girl, whose parents raised her in a boxcar and got her fucked up on weed, meth, booze etc. when she was just a child. Her Dad and his friends also regularly raped her.
Remember that when you whine and complain about how mean your parents are (not directed at the posters on this thread).

 

you might not be guilty cause u havent lied ..but its not really about the lying seeing ur parents cry is a punch to ur gut that hurts like a bitch...i got caught about 6 months ago they cried,then told me to they will never let me see my best friends again,then all trust was gone..but what can i do i know they do this cause they care...still ...IM NEVER QUITTING HAHAHA

 

i failed a drug test last week and its not really a surprise to my parents, but they still punished me. my mom is still a bit uninformed, but i had a talk with my dad and he kept going on about his days as a teen trying all these new drugs in the 70's and whatnot. he says that weed is definately the least harmful of drugs, including cigarettes and alcohol, but he doesnt want me to smoke it only because i can get in trouble with the law and it introduces me to people who do harder drugs. and its all true, so i need to inform mi madre some more. just try to educate them a little and they might understand a bit more

 

The idea about feeling guilt / bad in this situation is only because people know their parents have built in their minds who their kid is, and when they discover something like this, its hard on the parents, and I'm sure no one's smokin up with the intentions of hurting anyone, least of all their parents. Plus.. I dunno about you guys, but seeing my parents unhappy as a result of something I've done is pretty much the worst aspect of the situation.

 

I quit smoking for this very reason. I just couldnt handle the guilt, and it was ruining my highs, so I wasnt enjoying it, and I was risking alot for it. Fuck it untill I move out in 2 years, even though that is a long as time...

 

wow that's gay, good to see your not playing the bitch about it, though.

 

your parents cant tell your a pothead? shit i could tell that from the picture. lol
yeah but anyway its good that you were honest. when i got caught i just told my parents that i wasnt going to quit. and i never did. but hey i live by myself now and am free to indulge whenever.

 

dont worry about it, if you can smoke and still do well in your life then im sure your parents will still be proud of you. kudos on telling the truth. let your parent know that you love them and want them to be proud of you and let them know that your still the same person as b4. do you have a job? are you maintaining your schoolwork? are you compassionate to your fellow man? if the answer is yes, point it out to them. theyll learn that just bcuz you partake in something that they disagree with you can still succeed in life! good luck

 

wtf is that thing in your sig?^ bout gave me a heart attack

 

its kyo, the vocalist from the japanese band Dir en grey. btw i really hate most fans of this band (i like the band No. 2 on my list of favorites) bcuz all of the fangirls are really annoying