I've got one on my mind. Is the underlying purpose of relationships to learn certain life lessons? I've had issues with my ex, and we were going to get back together, but now I am not so certain that would be best for us (me). Maybe I have already taken the journey once and getting back together with him would just be taking the same path with the same lessons. Feelings complicate the matter b/c I deeply care about him but what if he doesn't feel the same way and never did? I am so confused! Please explain your opinion on the first question and if you can, relate it to a personal experience that you would like to share. Thoughts greatly appreciated!!
Hi Hippie CHick Well , I'll try and answer altho its late and Im tired. Yes we can learn things from relats but I dont think we can say that the prime purpose of relats is to learn lessons. As a parallel , take the Kill Bill film line( and one of my own kung fu guru's sayings) "What doesnt kill u makes u stronger". Is being stronger better? Is u constantly being "nearly killed " better? Yes we learn in tough times , but constant warring or hardship cant be *just* what its all about , surely? Arent relationships about making your life better? Aren't good relationships meant to be the treat that we have to remind us there actually IS a purpose to us living , rather than us being slaves to .... er ... The Matrix?( or whatever it is lol) Arent relationships the purpose we're here , rather than something we have to struggle thro? If we struggle in a relationship , isnt that because were struggling in our outside lives and that is infecting our relationship probably unnecessarily? Personally I dont like struggles in a relationship.That was probably seeing my parents argue when I was a kid.I have struggles with my career , so frankly I want a break in my social life , or I just want to cut off that person. I think a relationship *can* be about growth and therefore learning. I just think a large part of learning is putting what youve learnt into practice ie *living*. Honestly , I dont know what Ive learnt in my life from relationships-other than how to relate to people. Maybe Ive learned that the main thing we can strive for is balance - between work , self development , growing relationships etc. If theres one thing I *have* learnt , its that whatever you wisely invest , you will get a return on. Whether thats a skill ,money , a creative expression , or most importantly , with people. I wish I could have invested more into some personal relationships , but felt I needed to continue my personal ( internal ) growth , before commiting to interpersonal growth. Maybe everything is connected? Work , social , interpersonal .That would say I should have given all equal priority , rather than looking at one , then the other. But to reiterate , one thing Ive learn is "sow and then reap the rewards" , but sow wisely.An example would be the prev threads Ive started in the relats section. Anyway , best wishes , Self Styled. PS I know Im not one to talk on this , but try and be as open as you can with him!xx
The purpose of ALL relationships is to gain knowledge. It's the main reason for having them. The ones you learn from the most? The ones with yourself.
I tink one of the purprose of a relationship is to teach you some life lessons, and by 'relationships' I mean those with your partner in life firends, family and most importantly yourself. That said, I don't believe that that is the only purpose of having a relationship, there's also the element of enjoyment that love, exceptance can bring. It's not all struggle and hardship. Hope that helps and good luck
This is where I am at: Look at the benefits and negatives of the relationship. If you're losing, get out! However, if you're benefiting, keep with it. Plus, look at the other person's parents if you want an idea about what they are like. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. These are my thoughts. What do you guys think about it? I am trying to advice from as many people as I can so that I can make a more educated opinion on relationships and be able to judge what to do with my relationship with my ex. Please tell me about your thoughts on relationships. Much appreciation and gratitude! Peace and love
What if the path you take is a dead end? That's kinda what this relationship is starting to feel like as I examine it... Or are there no dead ends? Peace and love
Hippie chick , I dont nec think u can compare people to their parents. Im completely unlike mine in pretty much everything.Infact , Id be semi offended if someone says I was like them! The first lesson of relationships , Id say , is learning how to communicate. Uncertainty and the lack of understanding and objectives is what sours them. Accept and identify what will be grey areas , then just do your best in the circumstances. Dont expect too much too soon , and it wont be so bad if things dont end up perfectly. Good luck.Why dont u start by mentioning what u said above , to him?
