Breaking up over anal?

Just to be clear I'm not saying in a healthy relationship where two people bond stronger than water and ice a break-up happens because no anal.

BUT, say a relationship is in the " I'm not entirely sure " phase.

Say you as a guy are in the more doubt corner.

And say you've tried to have anal with your girlfriend and she's really not into it, be it from bad previous experience or social reasons.

How would it be to break-up somewhat over that issue?

For me, I'm very sexually open and understanding. My girlfriend had her fair share of partners and I don't ask specifics and don't really care. The only thing that annoys me a bit is when a girl I'm seeing has done things with previous men that she hasn't done with me.

Basically if a girl deep-throats 20 men before me, I would only care if she doesn't deepthroat me, not that she sucked 20 penises, you see?

She's been more open to anal play and I've fingered her ass about 6 or so times now. I've brought up anal and she's been on the " maybe " side but when I said " I understand you had a bad experience and just know that I'm not going to push you " she replied with " I'm happy I have an understanding boyfriend ".

This was 2 months ago.

We're going on a trip soon and she's said she has a few presents for me that she can't tell me yet. From the sounds of it I feel maybe anal.

She likes domination but I know she's not a big anal freak.

I feel she may open up because she's very sexual, but if she closed those doors down forever, would I have to accept that?

 

Of course you would. She's the owner of the door. You can't go barging into locked doors. Things tend to get all ugly and legal if you do.

 

I think it's part jealousy.

I mean, I know some pretty hot girls who do anal, with pretty much every guy they get involved with after a month of dating.

My girlfriend herself said a friend of hers does it every time she's on her period.

Seriously, I don't think it will be a no-no, but I think to myself, I've heard guys who do break up with girls if they don't agree to it.

 

I think you should dump her because you're not entirely sure; but the sex thing is an okay reason too, I suppose.

 

Well ask youself this........

Is Anal that important in your sex life, that you will always want??

If you like and enjoy it then for some it is a reason.

 

Ask yourself where your anal fixation comes from.

 

I think if you are thinking about breaking up with your girl because she won't do anal, then she is definitely better off without you.

Waiting for backdoorman.

 

Remember that you might dump her on day 100 of the relationship over the anal issue, and if you had just been there for her and made the relationship more real you might have gotten anal on the 110th day. Keep that in mind I've been with my gf a year now and we are STILL trying new things in bed.

 

Dude, I would have dumped her the very moment she first refused or declined anal sex from you. Sure, we can speculate endlessly that she could be saving the moment for a special occasion--but on the other hand she could be conniving and using it to string you along for money, gifts, your full attention or other selfish reasons. Either way, I would not waste any more time and dump her because she is not what you seek.

Anal whores are the best because they want what you want. Deep inside one she wants your cock deep inside her asshole, and deep inside your desires you want to go balls deep in her ass and go ass to mouth with her. You and your girlfriend are obviously not on the same page sexually, so if you do not dump her now, there will be problems in the long term. I have dumped many girls for this reason, and I have never looked back because I know that thanks to the internet there are a lot of anal whores out there. One generation ago, anal was very uncommon because the only porn out there was on VHS tapes and anal was not popular, though increasing. Because of the internet, anal porn is everywhere and so easily accessible to all that this generation has grown to accept and enjoy it far more than the previous. Back when I was in high school, I would estimate that one in five girls did anal; today, I estimate nearly one in two. Believe me, dude, they are out there. Just go to the bar and hit up a girl with a hot ass and a thong/g-string and chances are that she will be the girl you want--at least in the short term. Far better than a selfish bitch who is holding out.

This reminds me of my buddy, who, if you look back in some of my early posts, hooked up with a girl basically to get into her butt. Five years later, he still has not fucked her in the ass and they are married, have a baby together, he is deep in debt, and very miserable. The fault is ultimately his for not heeding my advice back then (to dump her), but also because he is not man enough to take control of his life but instead submitting to her denials (e.g., "We're not going there [anal sex] and you'll just have to put up with it").

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Act like a man and don't be so accommodating to her because she is not meeting your sexual needs. Dump her and hit the bar and you will find anal whores. Be glad that you only wasted a couple months and not a couple years.

 

If you feel you need to have anal, and she won't do it, then yes, you should break up with her over it. That is just a matter of compatibility.

As you posted about it, I would guess that you do consider it an important issue.

That isn't what prompted me to respond though...

This is...

If a woman has tried things in the past to see if she liked them, then she must do them with you, even though she decided from those experience that she didn't like them?

Really?

 

Dump her if you feel you can never have a proper relationship with a girl who doesn't want a dick up her ass daily.

Otherwise, so? You say you know other guys who would do that, or whatever.... Yeah, we know the back door man too, and he's just an internet masturbation persona, he's never even met an "anal whore".

Unless you really need the anal, sounds like she's happy to be in a situation with someone who won't push her about it and who will let her have the kinds of sex she enjoys. Or you could just be a douchebag until she lets you in her ass, just like whatever other douchebags who she might have done more with, while feeling less with.

 

Personally I reckon that if you feel a meaningful relationship relies on your own shallow sexual quirks, then you don't deserve her & that you are the one who should be dumped.

 

I'm sure that has nothing to do with the fact that his entire attraction to her is based on wanting to "get into her butt".

 

Spoken like a true feminist. (Trust me, dude, I was like that in my college days, and looking back I realized that I said all that nonsense so I can get laid with pro-feminist bitches back then.) Tell that feminist rhetoric to men who divorced and lost half their shit and they will share with you pain that is very real--to the tune of up to millions. Personally I reckon that if women truly love you on the most ideal terms, they should have no objection if you present them prenuptial papers to sign.

 

Note how you automatically assume that these beliefs are purely feminist ideals. In actual fact, they are equal rights ideals. Whilst all too many things favour the male as the dominant party, there are also many others that favour the female. Neither of these should be tolerated, similarly, neither should any kind of positive discrimination, as even this, by sheer definition remains discrimination.

I also believe that pre-nuptual contracts should be made a legal obligation as part of marriage anyway - in that way there would be no awkwardness about the idea of bringing the subject up.

 

I've always sorta liked the idea of time limited marriage contracts... basically, combine the pre-nup, marriage vows and divorce agreement into a time limited contract, open for renewal with consent from all parties.

I think you would find a large segment of the legal world lined up against such an idea though...

 

I still don't get the fascination of sticking one's dick up the poop chute when there's (usually) a perfectly good pussy an inch or so away. Whatever.

 

Variety is the spice of life

sometimes my gf's vagina is off limits, but she is horny and wants to be penetrated. The sensations are also completely different, for both parties.

 

Gay men don't have a pussy, so sticking it up the rectum is the only way they can have sex.

My question is, if backdoorman found an amazing anal whore, would he marry her? I would guess not, based on his fear of getting taken in divorce. If he wrote a book about his life, I would read it. It must be pretty interesting. Lets see, his dad was divorced by his mom for cheating when backdoor was 12, backdoor thought he would find a woman better than his mom and marry her, only to discover that it was really because of his father's personality that his mom had divorced him. This was very confusing for him, and he never recovered.

 

This sounds like a great idea.

But yeah, of course it would never happen, the lawyers who will line up to divorce you would line up to lobby for "family values" to make sure it never made it into law:2thumbsup: