blow jobs: how long?

Hi, i normally give my boyfriend blowjobs for about 2 minutes before we have sex, but sometimes i want to give him one until he cums in my mouth, but it feels like im going on for ages, so i get paranoid and think im not doing it right, and stop and just jump on him.
How long does it normally take til the guy blows? are there any techniques to bring him to cumming? i thought guys need constant rythm so i try doing the up and down motion/handjob technique, getting faster and faster, til im going so fast i have to slow down again, is this right/normal? i find it gets monotonous also and i feel like im taking too long, maybe it just feels like a long time...i dunno, please help

 

Why don't you just talk to him?

 

Heh yeah I think I'd love a blow job from you honey.
It usually takes me a good few minutes to cum.

 

i feel strange talking to him about it, ive always been quite shy, we are close though, i just cant find it in me to bring it up lol feel like i should know at my age =/

 

Well I'm shy as well but I've been with my bf for almost two years so there's no need to be shy but actually blowjobs aren't my speciality )

 

Don't worry you're doing your part.
See if there is anything in particular you can do, just ask?
If you can suck his dick, you can talk about his dick.
I generally only cum from intercourse and my ex was amazing at giving head.

 

It takes my beau about a hour normally.

 

Jesus christ, an hour?! Blow jobs are amazing, I would say if she's really good 5 minutes, if she's not good at all, still only 15 minutes. haha

 

As the answer to most questions in the universe: it depends.

It will vary based on factors such as: how long since he last came (if recently, of course it will take longer), how horny/excited he is, and personal stamina.

You can't do much about the latter, but you can get him going before, during, and when he's approaching climax in a few ways (more on that in a minute). As for technique, it's really not all that complicated. To quote 2Pac, "it don't matter just don't bite it". A simple head bobbing motion, being careful to avoid teeth (unless he likes that. Most don't but a few guys do), perhaps occasionally travelling down to lick/suck the balls, is all it really takes.

You can encourage him to cum in a few ways. Personally I like to take charge and get aggressive, verbal (Saying things like "good girl" and "you like that cock don't you, you little bitch?"), pulling it out once in a while to slap her face with my dick. Also stroking the back of her head and pulling her hair a little is a turn-on for me. In this case it's something I would do and all the female has to do is allow it. You should ask your partner what he likes in this regard and encourage it. It also helps tremendously if you at least act like you are enjoying it, because if you seem bored, that emotion will resonate and he will also feel bored. Not bored enough to stop it, because really, what man on the receiving end of a blowjob would stop it prematurely? But it will cause it to take longer.

When he seems to be thoroughly aroused, you can encourage him to cum. Just be careful as this can backfire if it seems like you just want to get it over with. (Once I made the mistake of trying to train a new lover how to do this in the middle of the act. I told her "Tell me you want me to cum" and her immediate response was "Cum already". Yeah, that was a turn-off) Make it seem like you really want it - trust this and it will come gushing, I promise you.

 

ah young love is a wonderful thing

 

2 minutes? do you time it?

the amount of time does not matter, melt into it and time disappears. He will cum and you will cum energetically.

 

Honey, the only bad blowjob is no blowjob at all. Just ask him what he likes and do it for him. Same goes for you. If you want him to give you an orgasm, tell him how to do it!

 

well with my boy its different everytime, but he is a huge blowjob lover (well i guess every man is). But there are times it goes on for an half an hour or so and there are times when he cums the second min! Usualy i think its better the first few min to just lick it slow and to watch him in the eyes and then to take into your mouth, but again to suck it slow (you dont get tired that way and i think its more pleasurable for the man) and i think its good to have much slime. And if you can deep through than deep through.

 

im listening, thanks for the advice everyone, you helped alot xx

 

Yeah, it can take some guys quite awhile...30 minutes to an hour. I agree with greengirl's comments: take it slow, keep it lubricated, and relax. I'm sure that your mouth gets tired, but after all, it's called a "job."

 

Maybe he's holding out because he may not know you want him to finish. If he thinks the blowjob is just foreplay and sex is to follow, then he is probably holding back his orgasm. Let him know from the beginning that you are going to blow him to climax and I'm sure he will relax more and cum a lot sooner.

 

Personally bj's are my favorite thing to do or sure !! Only 2 minutes and then sex well that is a waste in my mind... I like to take my time.. drive him to the edge and then back again.. go right crazy, then calm right down... IF he cums within 5 minutes well I think that I am doing something wrong... the longer the better, cuz well I guess I just honestly enjoy and luv doing it to him

 

I real good BJ goes very fast. A few Minutes max. A bad one can take ages and makes looking for a good book or wanting to watch TV.

If your friends gets a little soft then you really do something wrong, or he isn't a BJ loving type of dude.

 

I know my girl would be pretty "wtf" if I came from a blowjob in a few minutes...

 

Time to orgasm is determined by a million factors including level of arousal, time of last orgasm and many more. Most import thing is to ask him what he likes. He you can't because you're "shy" you need to get over it or always feel insecure and inadequate. The choice is yours.