ok so ive been seeing this girl for a few weeks now. we are pretty close but havnt had sex. we have done everything else, oral on each other but she just cant get me off. i dunno why. im a virgin see, but she whacks away and gives me a blowjob, it feels nice man.. real nice.. but she just cant bing me to the point of climax, and then when it came to the point of sex.. i just lost the wood haha, i blamed it on alcohol but still.. its annoying, and i think she might be upset that she cant get me off like i can do to her. i think it might be a little anxiety on my behalf.. i cant FULLY relax and thats what the problem is. frustrating
first you need to relax, and not worry, for example if you both live at home - go away for the night where no one can disturb you etc. the time you tried it could have been the booze so dont drink!!!!!it sounds like you are putting to much pressure on your mr's. does she know its your first time? if not tell her say you are nervous etc. just chill and have fun
it could just be nerves. sometimes it happens. btw, can you get off by masturbation? i've known of guys who plain and simple couldn't have an orgasm any other way than vaginal or anal intercourse. its rare, but it happens.
