Hi, guys, I need some help figuring out if I am bisexual or lesbian. I will tell you my story and if someone was wondering the same think please drop your opinion. So I am 16 and I have never had a boyfriend or a girlfriend. At 14 I gave myself the label lesbian, a couple of months later I fell in love for the first time- it was a girl and it lasted for about seven month. She didn't like me back, so there wasn't a relationship. The past year I was in a bit of a social isolation and I didn't meet any people. A month ago I was on vacation and I met a waiter and he was flirting with me and I think that I liked it. So I don't know if I like men or just want to be in some kind of relationship. All my peers are in relationship and I am a bit jealous. Sexually I only like women, like I think if you take someone's shirt off and there aren't boobs underneath is just dissapointing. Another case that I am wondering about is this: last week I met a boy. I didn't like him, he smelled bad and he just wasn't a girl. But a few days later I found out that we are going to work on a project together and I thought wouldn't it be cute for him to be my boyfriend. Like I only met him once, now I don't even remember his face, I just remember that my first impression was that I didn't like him. I also have OCD, if this is important, but please drop your opinion. I fell comfort in giving myself a label. My first language isn't English, so I am sorry if I have any mistakes.
Welcome! I suggest you friend either male or female and see if it’s based on the experience which you prefer. Many are here as well to guide you!;-)
1) You want to feel important, you crave validation, you want a relationship. 2) At the moment, the best label for you is Q = Questioning. 3) Go on exploring homosexuality. That is enough work for the moment, because you are not surrounded by that many homosexual women, and you must go out of your way to meet them. 4) Exclusive or non-exclusive homosexuality, that question can be answered later on. 5) If you can’t wait, choose L again, until you realize that B fits you more. You just have to try out what you really like! Labels should reflect experience, not speculation about possible experience. Good luck!
Darling girl, you have your whole life ahead of you. Try everything , repeat the things you enjoyed ,forget the bits you didn't. You won't know until you do it. The most important thing is that you are comfortable with what you feel and what you discover about yourself. Keep in touch if you wish .
