Bisexual Or Lesbian? Help Me Figure This Out...

Hello​

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Confused and possibly overthinking??​

I am a 28 yr old female who has only recently come to acknowledge my affection for women...​

i was raised in a supportive loving family but while they supported my boyfriends... theyve made it clear all my life that being gay is not ok...​

and so all of my life until now i have been with men... and lately i am repulsed by men... to the point that my most recent sexual experience- i gagged and almost threw up on him.​

This isnt new for me- this has been an ongoing thing for about 2-3 years now but i thought maybe i just needed to stay single for a while and it would "fix itself". ​

i have been single for about a year now and had this 1 singular sexual encounter and the idea of a man made me gag it made me physically nauseous. ​

i know i have liked females my whole life... i know i have been more masculine my whole life- i prefer baggy jeans and t shirts to dresses and skirts i had crushes on girls growing up and i had crushes on guys too... but its all changed now...? ​

am i going crazy or is this a phase?​

honestly, when i think of being with a woman it turns me on i want to be with a girl!​

and this points me towards being a lesbian... but i flip flopped once- does this mean im bisexual?​

-Please-​

i am so confused ​

i am having also dreams of being a man- i am so confused and disorientated i dont know what to do ​

 

Definitely. Just go with your feelings. If you really want to label yourself, bisexual is a safe choice. That doesn't burn any bridges.

 

Stop thinking and start acting, you'll never truely know unless you try and from what you wrote it seems like there is a desire for women that has been burning inside you for far too long, forget about what people around you think is right and wrong, just remember they don't have to know unless you tell them.

 

The family that doesn't understand.. Trust me.. They can if they're open. I come from a very ardent pro national socialism family, if anything wasn't cool, it was me and girls. But they were open.

#1 daughter here. out of 4

 

Your family will bitch about every damn thing anyway, especially as they get older and crustier

 

Have you had sex with a woman?

 

I had a girl friend who liked girls but wanted sex from guys more. I think it was a society norm thing and her bad experiences with girls in the past that made her reject her feelings for girls. Eventually she gravitated to women and is more lesbian but i was still having sex with her until i met my wife. Toward the end of our relationship i was only allowed to eat her pussy because intercourse was too emotional for her.

 

Keep in mind that a lot of lesbians (not all but a lot) don't want to date bisexual women because they think we'll ultimately leave them for men (not sure why that's worse than being left for a woman, but hey people are entitled to their opinions).

 

I questioned my ex why she would want to date me if she prefers girls. She wasn't in love with some aspects of sex with girls yet. I think as she got older she got comfortable with her sexuality

 

I think there's a high percent chance that this user no longer visits HF.

 

Yup her profile says last activity was nov 17 last year

 

What do you need a label for?
The term bi means two, So do you like sex with both sexes? From your post "idea of a man made me gag it made me physically nauseous" Does the idea of sex with a woman do the same or turn you on?