Hi Muma's I'm beginning to think more now about the Birth of my baby. I really want a natural birth - Has anyone any advice on dealing with the pain and the techniques/breathing that we're used? Love and peace x
hiya, i had a natural birth, but was induced , so i ended up with an epidural....so cant offer much advice on how to go without, only that if you try to remember it WILL finish and you WILL survive however you may feel at the time, you can enjoy it more, i wish i had savored it more, it hurt like F**K but it was the most stunning experience of my life, and at the end of the day its pain for a purpose, to bring your child into the world, remembering that will help you cope, i only figured that out when i started pushing and it made that bit wonderful, i wish i'd tried to focus on that through the rest of it, a positive attitude is the best way you can help yourself in my opinion, goodluck hunny!!
I had both mine naturally. Don't laugh but meditation and humming when a contraction came on... it would come over me like a wave and I'd go hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm... until it ended... helped me at least. Aromatherapy is another thing. And, what about massage?
Meditation sounds good and it's great knowing that it worked for you twice. My husband would be happy to massage (he's my birthing partner too) me with aromatheraphy oils. Are there any that you would recommend? Also can I ask how long you were in labour for? Love and peace x
I had natural childbirth with both of mine,with midwives and not in hospital settings. The breathing helps,massage helps,and just remembering that giving birth is a transformational experience helped me too. My labors were short (about 8 hours with the first and 6 with the second) and the actual birth phase where I was pushing was less than 20 minutes with both my kids.That made it easier for me,I know. Remember that natural birth is better for your baby, it helps with bonding and breastfeeding. The pain is intense,yes,but I've talked to women who had epidurals and they had pain and their recover period after seemed worse. Good luck with it.
unforetunetly I didn't get to have massages and oils at my births but because I'm interested now in massage therapy I found out that there are massages and oils that help. Lavendar is the one I think that is mostly recommended. I have a book on it all. I'll find it today if I can and find out what each different oil helps with. But I know lavendar is very calming. They also recommend in that book scented baths while your waiting in labor.
I haven't had the chance to read what everyone else wrote. You don't have to feel pain. Birth isn't designed to be painful but rather it's meant to be pleasurable. I know, I've had contractions give me orgasms. The reason why labor and birth are considered painful is because we're taught that it is. So, we become afraid. And this fear is the main cause of pain. Because, when a woman is afraid it cuts off the flow of blood to non-essential organs. Unfortunatly, this means the uterus. So, it's doing it's job and not getting any oxygen and nutrient rich blood. This causes a lot of pain! Also, the other part of it is psychosomatic. I mean, if you believe you need to feel pain then you will. Another part is just plain society. The reason why labor is meant to be pleasurable is simple. What else do you think that the g-spot is for? Well, yeah, that too. But, it's also to make birth pleasurable. Trust me, it's not as weird as it seems...it's not like sex or anything. It just feels really good but in a different way. Hard to explain. When you have a contraction part of your g-spot is hit. And when the baby comes out...wow is it hit! lol Now, one thing I forgot to mention is that often birth isn't pleasurable because of who is in the room with you. Especially at hospitals. It's better at home with those you trust or in privacy. A book to read would be "Pleasurable Childbirth" I can't remember the author's name (I borrowed it from a friend) but you should be able to find it in a search. Also, there is a video "A clear road to birth" which you can also find online. In that video they show many women giving birth at home (without a midwife btw) and not a singe one is in pain. Uncomfortable, sure, but not in pain. There are other myths about childbirth. You don't have to tear (simply don't push, let your body do it for you. The baby will come out more gently and usually you won't tear). Epidurals can stall labor (expeically in first time moms) and can cause the baby to have breathing problems for the first day of life. Pitocin is an extremely dangerous drug that can cause your uterus to rupture. etc. There is a book called Obstetric Myths vs Researched Realities I suggest you should read (again you can find it online). It'll really open your eyes. *hugs* and good luck mama!
AWW its nice to see im not alone All i could do was hummmmm and loud i must add, i swore everyone probably heard me,lol. we taped it, and i watched it when i got home and thought it was quite funny, how loud i actually was. Its so hard, when the pain came i tryed everything, breathing hee hee hoo hoo, that didnt work when they became really close i started humming, and that seemed to work. I on the other hand didnt want anyone touching me or talking to me, i wasnt planning on a natural birth so i was in quite the shock of how much it really hurt and thought it was never going to end. The hardest part for me was when the contractions were right on top of eachother, it was hard to breath.........there was no space to, so i just kept humming and breathing after each hummmmm good luck
