Around December I made the conscious realization that 2011 would be a "make or break" year for me, so to speak. My husband and I are having a wedding in August, in Sept we will be able to (hopefully) have him legally adopt my son, my husband started his own business, and we are trying to get debt free. Up until about a month ago I felt like we were doing great...getting thrown mountains of shit to deal with and somehow wading through. There was a few weeks where I lost all hope. I felt completely on auto-pilot and my mind was silently screaming. I was feeling isolated but now I feel my husbands and mine bonds growing stronger. I feel more drawn to him then ever. I don't know for sure that we will come out on top, but I feel at least now that we'll make it through. Where we are now: On Monday we realized we would have to move out of the house we rent if we want to stay afloat financially. So at the end of June, we will be moving in with my husbands grandparents who have offered to have us live with them. I feel that this is the most practical thing for us to do in order to get where we want to be in the future. And, while it's beneficial to us, it will also be helping his grandparents who are (obviously) elderly and in need of an extra hand around the house. So, while this is the most practical thing to do at the time, it is also the hardest. I have not lived with any parental figure since before I was 17. There house is also going to have to be seriously baby-proofed first, and our space is limited. I guess what I'm trying to say is even though they are doing us a tremendous favor, I can't help but wonder if this is emotionally the best thing for my family at this time? Is everyone involved going to be able to live harmoniously for the next year? Sorry this came out so jumbled, my mind has been going non-stop lately and it's hard to hold onto a thought. Thanks in advance for any help.
. a fortune cookie the harmony you can attain now , personally and with your mate , is the power for tomorrow . .
Probably not but you can all do your best. The worst thing about living in someone elses house is the obligation to live by their house rules (if they have any) ... some people will be quite free about things and 'live and let live' so to speak, while others can be utter despotic control freaks. Some compromise and sacrifice is to be expected though ... the situation might not be ideal but it doesn't have to be forever. I've rented rooms in peoples homes and shared with others for most of my life, and recently have been staying at my mothers place off and on for a few months at a time ... and at times i had to go and stay with other friends so my mother and I could have a break from eachother. Just trust that for the time being it might be for the best. The fact that they offered sais alot in their favour.
