Bi men and aging

That, and a "hole" lot more!

 

I truly believe that, once an older bi guy discovers his long-debied "I've gotta have sex with another guy!" side, there simply NO turning back.

I also believe that such guys will be beyond blown away (pun NOT intended!) when they finally discover just how erotically charged sex with another man really is..............

 

Methinks that both things are what I'd call facts of life that keep getting proved from generation to generation. A guy wonders what it would be like to suck cock, and it might take him a lot of work and time, but he finally gets to take the plunge. It's a scary moment and what I call a moment of truth because now, with a dick in your face, it's time to see if you can do any of that stuff you've been thinking about and jerking off to. Once our guy takes the other guy's prick into his mouth and starts to suck, chances are good that he's now hooked on it and whether he takes the guy's cum into his mouth or gets a facial (or whatever), he also realizes that there is no turning back...

...because having sex with a man is seriously erotically charged and, for some, more than having sex with a female for the first time can be. Why? Mostly because of the very forbidden nature of men engaging in sex with each other and we are conditioned to be 100% against such things but... who the fuck knew that sucking a guy off could be so fucking hot? And they can now believe what they'd heard about men being better cocksuckers than women. Or they find that being fucked by a guy isn't as bad as they were told, and neither is giving a willing guy the high hard one and... what took me so long to do this? It can make women... redundant; if she doesn't want to have sex, not a problem because there are a gazillion men out in the world who'd give anything you'd ask for just to be able to have sex with you... as long as you're not afraid to engage with them.

And that's for guys who are into - and well into - their adult years; those of us who got started early learned that both of the things you mentioned are the honest-to-God truth so just to keep it real, it's not just older and new bi guys who gets to understand these two truths. Sometimes, it takes a guy a couple of times to learn these truths because maybe they didn't like it the first time, but they also learn that just because they said and swore that they'd never do it again, they find themselves once more staring at a guy's hard cock and he's almost drooling while thinking about sucking on it. Or they're like my "favorite" guys who take the plunge and say that it's not something they'd want to do all of the time but, my goodness, they're doing it every chance they get, and those two truths really sink into their mindset.

 

KD23:

Yet another one of your excellent "in-depth, right on the mark" gems.......tell it like it is, pal......

 

All of this begs the question of how old should a guy be in order to have sex that's not heterosexual? I'm not talking age of consent stuff so much than I'm "questioning" how and why men get to middle age and only now decide that, hmm, today's a good day to suck a dick... or two or three. Why does a married man have to wait until his wife goes through menopause and makes him celibate before he decides to give sex with men a try? How is it that a lot of males find out that there are guys who have sex with other guys but when it's their turn to take the plunge, it's all mysterious and terrifyingly unknown as to how to suck the dick that's in their hand?

Who gets the blame for this blatant disregard of the information that we should be told and taught instead of religious dogma?

 

KD23:

Regarding your personal encounters with older white guys enamored with BBC, about to try it for the first time.......

Would you say that most of these guys (after seeing the monster [of one of your aquaintances] that was going to rip into their white butts), after that first experience, found they couldn't get enough of it?

OR, after that first BBC encounter, did they admit that the "fantasy" was indeed a lot more stimulating (and a lot less painful!) than the "reality"?

"Be careful what you wish for"............

 

Ha, some of them found out that, at best, their lusty desire was more wishful thinking than anything else... and with the operative phrase, "rip into their white butts" being their new reality. Read this as, "What the fuck was I thinking?" and not being able to sit down comfortably for a long time. Some found that, oh, hell, yeah - a big, fat, Black cock worming its way into their rectum was all that and then some - everything they ever dreamed and masturbated to.

Or, probably more realistic, almost any fat, Black dick will either satisfy the need or make them wish they had settled for being a cocksucker. Is it funny? Yeah, and not really and especially when they're going on and on about the benefits of Black cock... and talking to a Black man who cut his bisexual teeth on Black men and, yeah, both sad and hilarious at the same time. We have the size of our cocks to "thank" for this but I have also learned that in a lot of situations, it's not the size of our cock that can have white guys in thrall - it's our so-called innate animal passion that's all that and a whole case of chips and the size of the guy's dick, well, yeah, if it was 10" or more, it'd be nice but homey is wrecking shop on that ass with his size 6 dick so, okay, that'll work.

I don't carry a monster in my underwear (not a shrimp, though) and I've fucked white guys as part of their first experience and they've said that they can't wait to have me or another Black guy fuck them and... that's okay, isn't it? It's... special to see the look on their face as the head of my dick goes into them and in that moment, yup - it's either they've dreamed of or the worst mistake they've made (you can see it in their eyes and feel it throughout their whole body) which, for the record, I do my level best to talk guys out of anal right out of the gate and suggest they get more practical experience sucking cock before taking this step because it is not like they've been seeing watching shit on Pornhub.

But ya don't have to believe me. What gets (and sometimes baffles) me is I can point out that there are white guys with ginormous pricks and they're not all that willing to engage with their big-dicked brothers and I, well, I remain baffled although I have a theory about that...

 

KD23:

Again, well-said, and making a LOT Of sense.

A m/m interracial (BBC) website I've mentioned several times in the past:

"IT'S GONNA HURT" (at least the name of the site DOES have some truth to it) shows banner photos showing MULE-HUNG black guys and white guys waiting to get their round butts PLOWED by these HUGE black monsters.

Here again, we have the old, worn-out stereotype being played out, where EVERY black guy is packing a HUGE python in his pants, and that the ONLY cock a gay/bi white guy wants up his ass is one that is HUGE.......and BLACK.

At an even 9" (and fairly thick), I know I'm more hung than a lot of guys of ANY ethic group, but, big deal, it does not make me feel that I'm SUPERIOR to ANY other guy whose cock is smaller than mine.....why should it?

Hey, you HAVE what you were BORN with, period.

I've seen plenty of pics of white guys whose cocks were HUMONGOUS, BUT, where is that "aura" of "mystery", regarding WHITE guys with HUGE shafts?

Hey, dudes, a HARD cock is a HARD cock; if you can get another guy off with what you have down below, well, hell, be pleased with yourself!

Simple as that..............

 

I don't know what else I can say about this. Some guys have this preference. I prefer not to be superficial because, as I have also learned, you get less dick when you're being superficially picky and.. what, are you gonna marry the guy and have his babies... which is really the only reason why his physical appearance would have any meaning or bearing but since naturally born males can't get pregnant...

Methinks that at the end of the day, it matters whether you're doing all that you can to be fucked and creamed or... you're willing to settle for being an internet meme and a part of an ongoing stereotype.

 

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If a gay/bi man is granted old age, at least let it be with both his dignity and self-respect intact, as well as, of course, overall decent health........

 

Methinks that would apply to any man; I also think that dignity and self-respect are things that only matter when you're still alive - and it's up to you to preserve those things until, well, until it's all over with. It's funny that you mention this because, yesterday, I was thinking about how I was fighting for my very life over a year ago and remember how... undignified I was as that animalistic urge to keep living kicked in and without a single thought about self-respect and, oh, yeah: I died anyway and without even knowing that I did until I briefly woke up (and my PCP said something about that during my post-hospitalization visit).

We talk about YOLO and, for the most part, that's true and if you haven't learned by now that dignity and self-respect are things that no one can give you and that you must establish them yourself, well, hmm. If you're bi or gay or thinking about changing some things in your life around this, it'd be nice if others could/would respect the decision that you made so that you can, in fact, feel dignified because no one is busting your ass over GG57's PUB (pure unadulterated bullshit) - and decent health is whatever it's going to be since being in great health means nothing when your heart stops beating. Since it's not all that likely that someone is going to afford you the dignity and respect that you know you deserve, you have to get them yourself and then stay true to yourself no matter what.

And if, by chance, there are some things regarding sexuality that you've left undone, what are you waiting for? Life is really too short... and you might not get a second chance at it like I did.

 

KD23:

Once again, VERY well said, and MUCH "food for thought" for certain.

IF a man is fortunate enough to get a "second chance" after something of a serious nature, by all means he should take it and enjoy it for all it is worth, and enjoy it to the fullest.............

 

When you get out of bed each morning, with all your senses intact, and are BREATHING, be VERY grateful for what you DO have......far too many folks (young and old) are not so fortunate as we are.......don't take anything for granted......

 

Depending on what you have going on with yourself, remaining aboveground (or out of the oven) is better than the alternative, ain't it? I think too many of us wait too long to take advantage of all that life has to offer...

 

Amen to that, my friend!

Too many do not realize that what we all too much take for granted in the course of everyday life are, more realistically, precious gifts, that should NEVER be "simply accepted"......FAR too many....both YOUNG and OLD.......live each day wishing that the simple things like eyesight and hearing.....and the ability to walk.......would again be theirs......think about it...........

 

Just thinking...........

Regarding ANY sort of m/m sex, how many guys that THOUGHT they were 100%STR8, after the FIRST encounter with another male, suddenly thought:

"Hey, how the hell can something that is supposed to be so taboo feels so fucking good?"

Here again, the never-ending, hypocritical, narrow-minded views of jackoffs and bigots have been working overtime to say "NO!" to ANY \m/m sex.

These fools should confine their misguided "vanilla" views to themselves (and their bedrooms)......IMHO...........

 

Well, as you know and as I've shared here, that was the same question I had asked myself after my first experience. Unlike the guys who, as I say, are/were late to the party, I never had a reason to think about my sexuality... until that hard dick changed my whole life in an instant and, let's see, I learned that you can have sex with girls and now, I know it can be done with boys, too, and it was a few years before I even found the word "bisexual" and I was off and running to gain knowledge about sex and sexuality and not just doing it.

I know that a lot of people say no to this and, deep down in their heart of hearts, they mean it and they have 100% buy-in with what religions have to say about this. Other folks, I've found, are faking the funk and speaking out against it and probably sometimes "out of anger" because they want to know what it's like - and since they've learned that there are a lot of guys who have sex with guys and they love it - and they can't figure out how they can get that first taste and feel of a man's prick without exposing the "fact" that they're a gay pirate and butt bandit.

It's hard to speak out against something that you've learned isn't as bad and as evil as you were taught and compelled to believe. Are the non-believers fools? No, not really, but they have been deceived and made to be mindless in their programmed beliefs because, fuck, who doesn't know that men have sex with men, women have sex with women, and some people go both ways (horrors of horrors). They know it and act as if it cannot be and they hide behind misguided and proscribed ignorance and it's not their fault all that much.

You can be gay, bi, straight and still be vanilla in handling your business; it's just that bi- and homosexuality seem to have an ability to open one's eyes to a myriad of sexual possibilities - but heterosexuality isn't excluded from this expanded view of sex but, once again, our social conditioning is designed to make us sexually immature and to keep us that way and just having enough sex to procreate and as God commanded Adam and Eve to do... and I still want to know where all those people came from when all that begetting the beginning of Exodus hopped off.

They tell us to not pay attention to the sexual elephant in the room and that if you pay attention to its existence, your life will be forfeit because you'll be struck down, yada, yada but over the many generations a lot of men and women have determined that, fuck, they're gonna die one of these days and in some kind of way so... why the fuck not get your freak on?

How can it feel so fucking good? That's because it's supposed to feel so fucking good because we are told that having sex feels good... but only if it's between a man and a woman and that's bullshit, a lie, and part of the biggest con in the history of humankind...

 

KD23:

An excellent, well-written, right-on-the-mark, no "PUB"....just the cold facts, EXACTLY as they ARE!

If more so-called "STR8" guys thought as you do, man, they'd be probably be going at it hot AND heavy with their male buds as often as possible, taking part in what I refer to as the ULTIMATE "male bonding" experience!

Again, what you wrote is 100% TRUTH.....too freakin' bad too many guys are so afraid of truth, that they put up walls to protect themselves from it................

 

Who says that they don't think like I do? Or, really, where do you think bi guys come from? For many a straight guy, it's all about trying to figure out how they can do it without destroying their image and being singled out as being gay since, as everyone knows, only gay men have sex with other men. Yep, uh-huh, sure.

It's why I believe it's a mistake to equate M2M things to being in a relationship because as you know, a lot of men just want to have sex with you and call it a day or, yeah, why buy the cow when you're already getting the milk? It has been said that if you free your mind, your ass will follow and in things M2M, there's a lot of truth at work. I can fuck a woman in the ass, and no one would bat an eye about it but if I fuck a guy in the ass, well, how fucked up am I?

If those guys thought the way I do, sure - they'd be out there getting all the dick and ass they can handle because at the very least, it's a damned good way to have some damned good sex. I've bluntly told straight guys that they have not lived until they have a male cocksucker blow them and when they want to know what's the difference is, I tell them to go get sucked off by a guy - then come back and tell me about the difference. It's not about being gay, bi, or straight but it is about another way to have sex and if you're into the romance and relationship thing, yeah, that can work, too...

...if you're not afraid to embrace it. And on the real, if you're too afraid, paranoid, or whatever to find out what it's like, it sucks to be you because I already know what it's like so I'm not the one losing out...