Hello to anyone who might read this... I didn't see a thread discussing this, so here I go. I'm a married man in nyc who's had plenty of sex with women and men. I didn't feel any sexual attraction towards men until college: high school and puberty was all about ladies. My college was an arts conservatory, so naturally I was exposed to a lot of different ideas...the most relavent to this being that sex with men was not just ok, but you didn't have to define yourself as a person based on what happens to turn you on. Easier said than accepted, of course; it took a really nasty break up before I decided, for real, that my attraction to men wasn't something to be ashamed of, but was something I could allow myself to enjoy. So since then I've had...less guilt...and have been honest about my past and present desires. In fact, if not in scope :& . Got married a couple of years ago, and still crave the cock. I think my wife thought that it was...whimsical, or passing, but I'm pretty sure it's as fundamental as my love of pussy. It's all just sex, and it all feels good. But she doesn't know about my hook ups (though she probably suspects from the occasional semen stain on my knees or shirt). Anyway, I'm interested to hear and talk with others in this situation. And please: no "you're either gay or straight", becasue that's just not true, whatever anecdotal "evidence" you may cite. If you read this, I hope you'll post whatever feelings you have about it, or experiences you want to talk about. If not, have a great day!