I'm a bisexual woman, and have always been attracted to both sexes but I've never had any deep romantic relationship with a woman because for some reason, women aren't attracted to me except for sex. The last time I had a girlfriend was in 2007, when I was 16/17. Does anyone else have this problem? I'm trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong... I am tall and lean over to the feminine side. Women look at me as a good time but they never fall in love with me like the men have? I'd like a relationship opportunity with a woman but my hope is dying.
It is my opinion that you need to start making friends and evolve to sex. There are a lots of single women including divorcees, and widows who find themselves alone. If they are financially secure they are traveling on group tours to Europe and America, including cruise ships. Some are looking for men but others are happy with independence and tired of male domination. There is plenty of opportunities to have a drink in a lounge, or go shopping. They will be fully ready to express their feelings and possibly open up to new things. It seems natural for women to experiment when they are older and making their own decisions..
I was thinking that sex as the result of a relationship with another person, Hetero-sexual or alternative life styles. A woman seducing another woman should be easier for two unattached females. Women really like kissing, French kissing and petting. Men become skilled in this in order to seduce a female acquaintance. It is the first thing to go after marriage. Get together with a woman you are attracted to and have a few glasses of wine. Start talking about missing kissing and petting. See how she responds to your wishes and see how it goes. You may even ask her to kiss you to see how it feels. Good Luck
Look for women who are homo romantic, or at least bi romantic and specify that in your personals ads? You might have better luck with masculine "butch" lesbian women for romance? Or queer identifying women who have a masculine energy and maybe avoid femme, bisexual women? Just my observations on having a few friends who fit all three of those categories. Good luck and let us know if you find that relationship you are looking for!
Thanks so much. <3 You're post has lots of wisdom in it. I don't make ads, (I'm too chicken for it) and I'm also limited because my family hates LGBTQ+ so I'm still not out. I wanted to go to some bars or pride but they'd find out and disown me. I feel like that would be the easiest route but yeah, you're right. I need someone who is also homoromamtic.
Have you considered polyamory? If you're family would disown you, find a polyamorous man to date & marry, who is fine with you having a bisexual romance with another bi or lesbian woman? That would be a V where they date you, but not each other. It's more easier to find than a throuple where all three of you date each other. Or find a woman in poly marriage, and develop a relationship with her. A sizeable number of poly women are bisexual and bi romantic.
It sounds like you are anatomically a female with other feelings trapped inside. You might try the social route based on your interests. You need to present your self based on your gender but remain noncommittal on any overtures by a man or a woman. Whet are you interested in? Things like Poetry, Photography, dining out, travel etc can get you into q social environment. Most workplaces have co workers who go out for dinner or belong to an organization such as a union. You will ultimately define you self and look for a partner.
I get that. That's even harder when you're closeted too. Do you live in much of a city? If you live somewhere dense and in the right region, you might have to try figuring out your surroundings for unexpected places for some time. That said, that's easier said than done. And also, if you don't live somewhere with those options, you might have to resort to meeting people online. Still, that has it's problems too, a big one aside from catfishing is that it's really hard to keep momentum going when you're not organically developing a relationship in person. Either way, there's always the hope that you'll befriend another girl who's lgbt and you'll naturally get into a relationship. Still, that's not guaranteed and I get that waiting can be disheartening. I think in your case, hopefully things will get better around you. A big barrier must be your family, I imagine that also makes it hard for you to be fully open even when presented a bit of an opportunity. But hopefully circumstances will line up better for you, and you'll get out of this rut! It's never too late, in fact it might even be cooler when you're older. That's kind of how I feel.
