best age to get the FUCK out of the house

well im about to enter the college in my home town...i also have a great job offer as an project coordinator of minority communities in Kosovo. well since things have changed i started to think about moving out and start living alone.so far i didn't do that because of financial problems...also the albanian sociaty is VERY VERY VERY oldfashioned and closeminded. wich means that if i move out ill probaly loose any contact with my father(who is strticly against the idea of moving out). well not that im gonna be influenced by this because its time for me to be fully independent and i know that IM REDY...


my question is may you tell me about your experience relating to moving out...?was it hard? what problems did you have? etc etc...

 

Well , I moved out on my own when I was 15....but I also had a daughter and a job so I was grown , so to speak. Then I lived on a commune for awhile so I was on my own but not alone , it was wonderful.
I have mixed feelings about kids leaving home now because Im a parent and I now see the other side of things , and get the protective maternal thing when i think of kids being on their own. If you think your ready , then thats cool , but leave the lines of communication open with your family in case you need to go home.

 

i plan to move out when i'm 18..

i know how you feel with the parents thing.. my parents are not into the 'moving out' thing - they want me to wait til i'm married and then move out into a house with my husband
.. but i don't see that happening, and even then - i know they would never approve of a man i'd pick; they expect 'a good clean, pure christian boy' - oh golly.

mm, it's going to be a bit difficult with the family and keeping connection part.. but really, you are not responsible for their happiness.. and you do what you gotta do.
if there is the possibility of keeping communication and a connection working, do it! definitely would be a great place to fall back on..

but if you are like me, and have parents who make it clear that "if you leave, there is no coming back" - all i can say is... good luck and you CAN do it

 

STAY AS LONG As POSSIBLE!! Not really, it gets a bit pathetic after awhile, but don't rush out. I did, and I regretted it. I missed being cared for, delicious dinners, being spoilt, you don't know how good you have it 'til it's gone!

 

living at home is extremely easy and comfortable. I was kicked out at 16, though I've gone back and stayed briefly a couple times since then. like Ange says, you don't know how good it is until you don't have it anymore.

and while the freedom of living on your own is awesome, and it is in my opinion mostly way better than living at home, staying with your parents is just so damn worry-free; no rent to be paid, no dinner to be made, no bills and no working your ass off in a job you hate because you don't have the choice to quit and find something different.

 

I left home at 15, but then my mother was abusive towards me and it was the best thing for me to do.

I think some are ready well before others are.

Some are mature enough to go it semi-alone and can find their feet easily.

Thankfully I managed to! And I have my Grandmother to thank for that! She passed away when I had not long turned 19, and gave me support not given by my mother.