Being raised by Baptists

Sorry if this is the wrong forum.

It was very hard. My parents were very overbearing anyway and forcing their big religion up my ass didn't feel so good. LOL I wasn't allowed to do anything or go anywhere for fear of being influenced by others. I wasn't allowed to leave our dead end street even, NEVER! I wasn't allowed to even go in my neighbor's house!!!! I couldn't have or go to sleep overs...no cable TV. Sexual acts were all wrong unless you were married. I didn't learn to drive until I was 18. I didn't have a radio until I was 14 and couldn't listen to anything other than classical because it was offensive if this if that. I had to hide myself from them always about everything...the disapproval from them was not just them voicing them opinion but their rath and belittling, SHAME and abuse. It sucked to say the least.

Anybody else relate to this?

 

I'm sorry to hear this. My son is your age. We had some neighbors like your parents. Were you allowed to go to public school?

 

Yes but that wasn't much help in some ways..."You can't have any pudding if you don't eat your meat!!!"

 

I'm glad you're all grown up now.

 

Thanks, I became a total hippy almost overnight when I discovered LSD. Now ironically I have to live with them because I'm not employable (bipolar disorder, anxiety, back pain). They don't fuck with me as much now but still.

 

sorry that you went through this. parents are often evil and suck.

you might want to look into getting disability benefits

meditation might help you

I hope that things can get better for you!

 

You are now 30, what are you doing for you to make your life better and be in a more content place.

While their parenting may have lacked or have been far too rigid, you are no longer a child and are in a position to make change in your life and live it how you see fit.

That you are "bipolar disorder, anxiety, back pain" does not necessarily make you unemployable but it may take a commitment from you to be employable.

They may not be the parents you would wish for but they are also the parents who have not kicked you out at 30 or younger.

Set some goals, work on your own issues and move on and make your own life. It is time to do so.

Good luck.

 

the most controlling parents sometimes end up having the most messed up kids. I have seen so many situations where kids get mental health problems from having parents who don't give them much freedom.

 

And the sad thing about that is that when they get to college out of their parents supervision they get wild and crazy. I seen it all before. It's fucking sad

 

I had an uncle that was the pastor of a pentacostal church , and I got roped into being his pianist. I grew up hearing the book of revelations and how everthings a sin , it used to scare us little kids so bad we were afraid to make one little mistake in case the world ended that night.

 

get over it.
i was raised irish catholic by a police dad.
sneak out and battle fucking wars

 

wow yeah, thats pretty hard-core I would imagine...

I was raised Southern Baptist (in colorado?) it was weird, but not overbearing as long as you submitted to a baptism by age 12 or so, and learned to keep your mouth shut about certain things you were allright.

 

i know JUST WHAT YOU MEAN!
i was raised with 5 other brothers and sisters with only a dad (my mom left) ,
he was a die hard irish catholic and i mean it was his life ..plus he was an army dad so that fucked us up even more ....all i can say is GET AWAY FROM YOUR PARENTS ANYWAY POSSIBLE! I got prego and left ( not the best choice but most rewarding)

 

This^^^