been together 7 yrs and bored

Hi, i've been with my bf for 7 yrs and im starting to get bored, we do the same thing everyday, and i start to have fantasies about other ppl. I love him, but is there any way i can spice this up, i tried alot of things but my interest is fading.

 

Sorry to hear that. It happens so you aren't alone. If you both love each other but are getting bored, have you thought of being adventurous with things you may not have tried yet?

 

Ive gotten alot of toys and trying new things, it helps but only for a while.

 

Wow you are really trying. Can I ask what he is doing to enliven things?

 

I really couldnt tell u.. i mean after the kid i did gain weight but im losing it now. He believes in his heart im going to leave him but im not. I love him.. but if something doesnt change i will be losing interest as the months go on.. then idk what

 

Well you can't leave everything up to him, you're probably going to have to take the lead foot and spice it up yourself. Do something completely different. If you've got a kink, sexplore it.

 

Its tough. You obviously love him but you are missing something in your life to keep your interest going. Have you formed any online friendships? I know its not the perfect solution but it might add the spice to your life that you crave.

Irminsul's advice is good.

 

Yea i have b4 but he hates that, so i just try to stay away from that. Irminsul i do i buy toys, he wanted prostate stimulation and i gave it to him, i randomly send txts, give kisses and other things but i think hes just bored with me as well

 

Tell him you want another male then, for a 3som. =]
It'll probably make or break you and either of those sounds ideal at this point.

 

Sorry my friend. I really hope you feel better about things. In the end, its your love for each other that will count more than if you are bored. You sound like a loving and exciting partner.

 

Irminsul i have and he said hell no , he doesnt want another guy touching me and i dont want a girl touching him.. so that wouldnt work. But hopefully we will get thru this. He says that he misses the connection during sex when i let him cum in me but i not on the pill anymore :/ .. so i will try that..

 

Thx orchardist

 

I think thats a great idea Linkin. As a bloke, I always loved that connection felt when we cum together with me inside her. You are onto something there! Good luck.

 

Thx all

 

Is it possible your interest with him or lack thereof is just natural family stress from having a kid and raising it and that this is just a phase?

If you are expecting passion like you see in the movies or in books or like it was in the beginning of the relationship, I'm sorry to tell you but at the origin of your relationship there were/are some really unhealthy and unrealistic understanding of what romantic relationships are like in reality.


And you sound young, so like some of this just could be from the stress of the poor slow growing economy.

Blame the 0.1% for causing middle class family stress and time shortages because work demands romantic time is cut short.



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Get on the pill or get an IUD if you can't take the pill due to unwanted side effects like weight gain or whatever else.

 

The stark reality - although no doubt harsh - is that you have to find a way to get the spark and the passion back in the relationship or you may have to part ways.

I mean, there's only so much one can do and if you feel that you've exhausted too much time & energy into getting that spark and fire back into the relationship, you may need to have a think about it all.

Though that is a last resort option. Very last resort.

 

No u guys are right, i do work 50 hr weeks but i still try my hardest to always make time for romance. I will be getting back on the pill to see if this helps any, but if it doesnt im out of ideas

 

What I want to know is how you dont get bored of Linkin Park, they sucked then and they suck even more now

 

Damn.. i happened to like the band ive used it as my screen name forever... idk all my other ones where taken, so there

 

Yeah in your case I don't advocate separation or divorce.

You guys still love each other that's obvious...you guys are just out of sync.