Has anyone become bi in mid-life? I am a 45-year-old married male and never had any attraction or interest in other guys. That all changed earlier this year when I came across a picture of a nude guy online and I got REALLY aroused by it. For some reason I just found myself really attracted to the guy in the photo and fantasized about being sexual with him. Since then, I have been exploring gay porn online and having sexual fantasies about being with other males. Regardless, I think I might be bi because I still have an equally intense attraction to females (especially my wife ). Does anyone have any ideas why this attraction to other males was turned on like a light switch? Is it possible to have some latent bi-sexuality? Has this occurred to anyone else and if so did you act on these feelings?
Hey there WesternNudist, I wish I had an answer for you, but I find myself in the same boat...although now I'm 56 this started when I was in my 30's and I'm still questioning myself. That said, I have made out with a couple men, all I can tell you is when you let yourself free when you are naked with a man, be free and let yourself go, it could be a magical moment. Good luck!
I don't have an answer for you either, but I will tell you it seems like it is becoming more and more common among young men your age. Maybe it is the age of enlightenment, maturity or maybe it is time on your hands and not enough sex with your main partner. For many of us, it has been a struggle to accept this is OK. Some of us have dealt the hard blows of our wives not being all that happy when we confess. Other guys have been successful to keep these urges a secret and just explore a little bit. There are no right or wrongs here. Society will tell you otherwise, but this is your journey, and it is up to you to explore as you see fit.
Seems like you are exploring a couple different things -I recall your post about thinking you are trans, as well. I hope you will take things slow and explore these without rushing too fast.
I never had a thought about same sex. Then at 38 I found the bi side of me. Now in my early 50s I’m bi at the very least
I thought about same sex since I was a kid - but I thought it was wrong. I experimented in my 20s before the AIDS epidemic struck. I liked the sex but I didn't like the "lifestyle". I retreated into a Christian hiding place, a straight marriage, kids... and did ok for a long time - just denying my same sex attractions and praying away the gay... but, like many of you - as I approached mid-life - with the kids growning up and gone and a wife who no longer desired sex - fighting those same sex attractions was like fighting a dam that was breaking.
I had urges to explore when I was younger but never did until my wife and I parted ways when I was in my 50's. And, once started, I found I really enjoyed bottoming for guys. Over the last ten years, I've enjoyed bottoming for several guys and see it continuing thru the near future. So, it may be a latent tendency that many guys have that may or may not be acted on. I still get strong urges to hook up with a female for hetero sex and perhaps even a long term relationship, but haven't found anyone that appeals to me or shows any interest. For the time, sex with guys satifies my sexual needs.
I don't think there is a real definitive answer that anyone can provide but I do believe that we men and women have within us the abilities to become involved in a bisexual life. I think what takes place in our lives will either keep it suppressed or release a curiosity that once explored can open our minds to something quite enjoyable. While in my late 30's my wife was back and forth with providing intimacy on a regular basis, sometimes going many months leaving me to masturbate a good bit to release what needed released. Then a guy offered a blowjob, I accepted and found it was far more enjoyable than I ever expected. It wasn't long after that I found myself becoming very attracted to other cocks, I was already obsessed with my own...lol. That was a bit over 20 years ago, I'm remarried to a supporting wife that is fully aware of and supportive of my bisexuality. I've had a regular man for mutual oral sex for about 13 years now. I love his big cock as it provides what a woman cannot provide, and I still enjoy my wife's big tits and pussy. Once you're able to accept yourself for who you are and what you partake in for sexual enjoyment it's just a new normal. I have no regrets for allowing my bisexuality to be released. I kept it hidden for many years because my ex-wife would have never been able to accept it, but my present wife has so I have no need to hide anything anymore. I am free to be who I am now.
I had bi experiences starting at 18 and on. I always felt bad afterwards and suppressed my feelings and was very secretive about it. Then 40 years latter I opened up to my wife and told her everything. This was the most liberating thing I have experienced. I still don't act on my desires very often but I am able to share them with someone and I am completely comfortable with who I am
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