Just wanted to put this out there for anyone thinking about venturing into the BDSM realm, no matter your type or level of interest. There's a really great channel on YouTube that is devoted to the subject and is quite eye opening. Just search for Evie Lupine. I've been very impressed with her candor, her advice, and her perspective on how to remain physically and emotionally safe while engaging in BDSM, no matter how tame or extreme. In the interest of full disclosure, I'm not in the community myself, but found the whole thing quite captivating and very positive.