BAD spot, own fault, looking for advice.

So, everything for me has been going pretty well recently, forming a good relationship with my parents, back in college doing well, taking care of my legal issues, and looking for part time work.

Today I went to PTI, and I apparently failed a drug test for THC. I got kicked out the program, have a court date early November, where the lady from PTI reckons ill be put on probation. Not the end of the world, but still a fuck up. I smoked thinking the week or so would be enough time to clear my system but it was not.

I am going to most likely have to leave the place I live. I have money thats been passed down to me, but not sure if i will have access to any of it, as my parents hold the accounts and will assume im going to blow the money.

Im honestly ready to let go, and just do what I have to 100%. Not cut corners here and there, but just do what needs to be done. Also I pay for my car, but its under my parents name so my insurance will be cheaper. I dont think Ill have that either.

So any advice on what i should do? Do you guys know of any organizations that will take people in? How i should proceed? I cant stand myself hurting my mother so much. I really dont want to go to a homeless shelter in Atlanta cause they are all in VERY bad areas. Like homicide is a daily thing area.

 

What's PTI? Do the first two years stand for "pre trial"? And why would you be kicked outta where you live? (where do you live? a little more info. on that and it may be easier to give you advice)....
if I were you I'd see if there's any way you can get back into the program? Tell who ever that you regret smoking and you are ready to do what you need to do... or tell that to who ever you live with? (but like I said, I'm not sure on the specifics on your situation)...

The one piece of advice that I DO have is.... yea, probation is no big deal IF you are doing what you need to do, and that, of course, means not failing drug tests. Just keep in mind that, around here anyway, probation dept. doesn't fuck around anymore.... you fail one drug test, even for THC, and they put you in jail. No matter what. So, just be careful to be able to pass once you are on probation. Smoking weed isn't worth going to jail for.

 

I would say quit college for the time being and get a job that you can pay your bills
and support yourself with.

That would be good for your self confidence and self respect.

You can always go back to college later, or do part time or night school.

 

For most of us PTI is ESPN’s Pardon The Interruption with Michael Wilbon and Tony Kornheiser, for Pothead's its Pretrial Intervention


Hotwater

 

yeah.

i moved back with my parents for this semester. they live near atlanta.

i really dont want to give up on college, although i get where you are coming from.

need any other details?

 

Are you prepared to leave country and family behind and seek better fortunes in other countries?

 

i was actually discussing heading over to england and staying with family. they dont care who leaves. but when/if i came back, id get arrested

 

I agree college won't pay for your bills like he said you can always go back once you get your shit together. it's good you went back to school but the more important matter's are taking care of yourself so you are able to go back and getting clean so the next drug test you pass with flying colors

 

Sort out your legal shit first.

Can you not move back in with your parents while you work and save money? If you can really just put college on hold, that seems like the logical thing to do until you don't have to worry about incarceration.

 

hopefully no incarceration....

i was living on my own, ive moved back into my parents house.

and now have to leave here most likely.

I really think staying with school isnt a bad idea. heps me have structure and i feel like i am achieving something. i disagree with all you guys. i just dont see the logic idk..

BBAD i agree with you post too.

to top things off ive been having horrible anxiety attacks related/unrelated to these circumstances.

 

I feel your pain brother. Good luck with whatever happens and don't give up,

 

Refer to the quote in my sig. Keep your head up, brudda.

 

Situation:

Dad comes home tomorrow. He is the one more likely to flip out. I am going to explain to them its focus time, ready to move on. Idk what will happen. Should I try contact my dad now before he gets home?

Fuck.....

 

I don't understand why they flip about smoking some weed, nobody I know including my parents ever cared about that.

Although, no offense, that was stupid to do while in pti.

 

If you go to england, will you have sources for drugs? Might be better for you to be away from that shit for a while, IMO.

 

I would personally wait until he was home to tell him. It is to your advantage to have the element of that time on your side. At the same time you can then have a plan of action and commitment ready to give at the same time.

Leaving the country with outstanding legal issues is never a good idea unless you are never planning on returning. Bad choice.

You need to decide which way you now want your life to go and make the necessary commitments to get there. Possibly with the right ones in place you will still have the support of your family to assist you in getting there.

Your choice.

Hope that it goes well for you.

 

No offense at all. It was stupid. Could have stopped in time, but pushed it slightly and didnt know my own body as well as i thought.

It is not understandable I agree. I have had issues with other drugs including PAST opiate dependency, kinda sever. And I mena ive moved on leagues from where I was before in that respect and in life. I just have to be the man i know i am and step up....
thanks for posting though appreciate it

It would be interesting to go back to england and pick up college there. Good to get me on a nice path for a few momths/half year. My mum and I worried about if i come back though will i have to go straight to jail. I wouldnt wanna miss the court case as when i came back id be taken to side. I have been for pending case in the past. Which is a whole other thing ill talk about.

they dont care who leave US really. But when you come back in if you have anything on your record even stuff that has been disproved even dismissed they will still question you about it.

Edit: Oh yeah if i went there eggy, i wouldnt really have any sources for drugs. I dont have any current drug dependencies but its hard living around the place u know where to get, when you are just starting to move on from that type of thing. I would have access to good pot in england from a childhood friend. thats about it. It would take serious sourcing to find stuff like i do here in GA. As i feel drug culture isnt as pervasive in the same way it is here.

 

Thank you.

And yeah I know, in my other post a couple minutes ago here, i touched on legal issue of that. I def wouldnt wanna go before case, maybe once I did get some legal situation sorted, i could go then but still depends on circumstance.

I have been making a future plan for college, where and when i plan to transfer back to a 4 year school, which really iss a goal i want to accomplish. I also might start going back to NA meetings, it is a good support in some aspects, some stuff they press on too much pisses me off, and I am considering getting completely clean for a while. No occasional toking, no beers even.

 

All support groups have a lot of things that simply just do not fit but they also have some that do. Take the positive from those type of things and leave the rest.

Change is easier with positive reinforcements, so look for those.

I hope that you can solve these issues and going back to school or forward with your life would be a really great thing.

This is still fixable so do that and make a start on the life you want.