So my wife and I have an amazing relationship and an even better sex life. I’m on my 3rd (and last) marriage and this is her first. I am 100% loyal & faithful and 100% satisfied with everything, but I have a lot of fantasies I would like to fulfill like going to Swinger clubs, voyeurism, threesomes, etc, and my wife, (although intrigued and turned on by the idea of these things) is much more reluctant to delve into these things. She moves at a snail’s pace & I want to drive towards the goal line like a bat out of hell. Anyhow, it’s all good, but I’m wondering if I should feel like a selfish asshole for wanting to fulfill my inner-freak desires when I have such an amazing wife who does a great job taking care of my needs (one on one).
I don't think you should feel that way... unless you pushed her too fast with something she wasn't comfortable with. No one would win that way. There's nothing wrong with going slow, taking baby steps. The important part is getting to your destination. Remember. Slow and steady wins the race (if it were a race, which it isn't).
If she's intrigued and turned on by the idea, you may already be at the starting gate and not know it. Intrigued and turned on by ideas. Those are the very ingredients you need, in my humble opinion. Long story short: In my case, my wife and I have been watching porn for years. Though it still gets her juices flowing, much of the new wore off from it so-to-speak. I jokingly asked her about watching people have sex in person last Sept. Initially, she thought I was nuts but, in that short amount of time, she went from thinking it was really weird to helping me plan the logistics. We're watching another couple tomorrow. Plant seeds and nurture them. And rather than asking her "Can we watch a couple fuck", say something along the lines of "I've been curious about what it would be like to be voyeurs. What do you think it would be like?" So, don't suggest doing things. Ask her what she thinks it would be like for her. Those are seeds. Plant them then nurture them.
So as a converted "freak" I'll give u my take on it lol, I've always been really open sexually and have had amazing sex throughout my life. I've been with my current partner around 3 years and hes the best lover I've had, were really sexually compatible etc etc. Recently he took me by surprise by suggesting that he watch me get fucked by another guy, initially i was slightly offended by the fact he saw it as ok for someone else to fuxk me but after running through my mind, found the thought of it increasingly hot, after a few conversations I agreed to indulge him and my god!! Best thing I ever did, the "cuckold" sex is beyond amazing and I'm so glad I gave it a go!! Its not selfish to want to try things and speaking from experience, if she finds the thought of it hot, she'll definitely give in to temptation given the right circumstances. Now I find nothing hotter than sucking my guys dick while he watches another guy fuck me........its a game changer x
