Attention All Mothers

ok.
I have to tell my mother that I am a lesbian.
I am so chickening out.
I really want to just get this off my chest.
Any advice?

 

i wish i could help you, but i can't. Just do it when there is no "drama" going on in your lives. Just explain that it is who you are, and you really can't change it. I dont know, i'm not much help here, good luck.

 

Just go for it, take a deep breath and put yourself in the state of mind where you don't think you can back out, and good luck

 

Just let her know that you have felt this way for (however long) and that this is who you are. It doesn't make you any different of a person, you are still her daughter and you always will be. Just explain to her that it was hard for you to even tell her but that you felt she had to know that part of your life. Good luck and be strong honey! You are going to make some lucky girl VERy happy!

 

Yes. I'd really emphasize that this is difficult for you to say--try to get her on your side, you know. She's a mom, and thus probably prone to sympathy (not sympathy for the fact that you're a lesbian, sympathy for your nervousness )

 

well its day 2 of the struggle and I nothing yet.
thankyou for the advice
how should I bring it up...out of the blue or lead up to it somehow??

 

I would say you should lead up to it ... but sometimes maybe getting straight to the point (out of the blue) is better. That way your mum knows just what you want to say.

 

maybe some mother perspectives would help....Moms, how would you rather be told that your daughter is a lesbian?

 

yip, the moms should answer that question!

and sweetie, lotsa strength hugs, kisses and love to you

 

I need your help,
I have to tell my mom that I'm a lesbian, and I want a mothers opinion on how I should do it.
How would a mother want to hear this, and what kind of things would she want to know?
Should I say it in person, write a letter, let her bring it up?
should it be out of the blue, or should I lead up to it?
any opinions from the hipforums mommys would be very much appreciated!
Thankyou

 

"Mum. I like pussy."

 

so how old are your kids toolmaggot?

 

why do you need to tell her at all? In our society alot of people have room mates and such and if you wanted to, you could just not tell her. I understand that being open and honest is important but why does anyone need to know who you sleep with?

 

it all depends on the person, noone hear knows your mom thinking or the situation between you and your mum, they can only speak for themselves

 

Hey. If I was a mum, that's what I'd want to hear.

Then again.. I can't imagine being a parent.

Alright, scratch that. Vodka does funny things.

 

hmm you might want to post this in the parenting forum, it might get more views and responses? just a suggestion.

 

i dont know that the hip forums would be an accurate depection of what to expect from your mother. Pretty much everyone here is very liberal and accepting. Your mom may be the same way, but every mother may take this news differently. You won't know what she will say until you you actually tell her. She may be very accepting. But it is important to tell her. Good luck.

 

Mushie has a great point. It really depends on your mother's outlook on social issues...but of course you are her child, so even if she is liberal, it might still be the shock of a lifetime.

Be careful on the approach!

 

Whatever you do, don't tell her out of the blue. That would be just weird "Hi Mom, I'm a lesbian"... that would be weird.

You would need to lead up to it, or writing her a letter would be even better. You could wait for her to bring it up, but that might take forever (unless you went to her house with your girlfriend, but thats a bad idea too).

I think a letter would be the best idea, but no matter what you do your mother is probably going to be crushed that your not giving her grand children (unless shes not that kind of person).

Heres a few questions you could ask yourself,

Does my mother have issues with homosexual people?

Does my mother expect me to have children?

 

Write her a letter. It would be hard to tell her in person, but it wont be hard to put the letter in the mail box.