Asshole Fwbs

So here are my fwbs:

Paul: kind, quiet, mentally ill but stable now. Works at a home for mentally retarded people and as a substitute teacher. Wants to become an insurance agent. Takes me to dinner, picks me up from my appointments and takes me straight home.

David: commanding, strong, daddy type. Payed my cell phone bill for a year, bought be summer outfit, took me dancing and to bars. Introduced me to his brother and his good friend. Cooked three meals a day for me on the weekends or when I wasn't working. Works as a legal assistant. Made me promise him I would never leave him. But sometimes doesn't call on Saturdays to let me know he can't make it, never calls me on Sundays.

Mario: Latin, cute, fun. Usually just wants head. So that's kinda pointless. The sex was good.

Guy who rums the swing parties: Good, Duke grad, has two businesses, only lets me spend the night after the parties.

Twin: fit, sexy, sexy voice. Mind blowing at sex.

But here's the clincher: Twin just sent me a text that said that I look pregnant in one of my pictures. My sister saw it and said "Cardinal Rule Number One: never tell a woman she looks pregnant." He said "what do you want me to lie about it?" I confronted him via text, asking him what possessed him to disrespect me like that. He said "your [sic] huge." Long story short he thinks I'm fat and lazy because I don't work out. Lives at home with his mom because she doesn't want to be alone now that the dad died. Used to have an apartment in the ghetto with roommates at the age of 33. I once saw a mouse. Brags about going to strip clubs, is always at a strip club. Spends all his money on weed and strippers it seems, not sure though.

I want to cut some of these people off. No more Ms. Nice Girl.

What are your thoughts?

 

So, just get another set, youll get bored of these ones anyway

 

they're just FWBs. keep them if you want, drop them if you want. get new ones that suck less if you want, and if such a thing is available.

 

where does the asshole part comes in..

 

What Twin said.

 

You'll still have 3 guys to sleep with. Cut twin off. His loss?

 

Thanks guys. I still feel very very hurt by the things Twin said. I thought he was a gentleman.

This morning he texts me and says he got Dominican pussy last night. I said cool. I said I got some last night too. He laughs. I ask him why he laughed. He said just cause. I said cause what. He said cause I can. He repeats you're fat. We start arguing. He says send me a pic maybe I'm trippin. I sent him a pic and asked what he thought. He says you look like one of those zoo animals you sent me. I said why so mean. He says he can't talk because he's on the train.

I just feel like he's so two faced and fake. Now that he's been working out and gets some girls, he thinks he can afford to disrespect me. I feel hurt by this.

 

Does Twin still want to hook up with you, if he thinks you are fat?

He has the right to tell you that (I would want to know if someone thought I was fat, actually). But, you have the right to stop hooking up with him. If you are sensitive to comments of that nature, tell him to fuck off. You've got plenty of other FWBs, so I imagine you wouldn't have trouble finding more, and more who find you attractive as is.

 

Thanks again gang. I think I might have become emotionally attached to Twin.

I listened to "Can't Trust No N****" by Khia twice. It gave me strength. Dudes ain't shit but hos and tricks. They're disposable.

 

It seems to be the way these days where women are attracted to assholes. My male friends often complain about this and even in this case it might be true if you have emotional feelings for him.

Treat them mean and keep them keen, isn't that the saying? Lol.

 

I guess I am going to be a bitchy mean girl again here.

Firstly, my guess is Ms. Nice Girl isn't going to get rid of the one who paid her cell phone bill for a year, bought her stuff and did nice things for her.
Of course he isn't going to call you on Sundays, it is obvious what you are to him. It blows my mind how an adult woman would let a man who she is only having sex with pay her phone. But whatever.
Secondly, that other guy calls you fat (numerous times!), and then asks for another pic, and you send him. Ummm you should have stopped talking to him the first time he insulted you.
You do obviosuly care about him, otherwise you wouldn't be all like "he lives with his mother bla bla bla".
I guess I am not sure you are handling this FWBs stuff in a graceful, mature enough way. You sound like a typical, typical, typical female.

 

I don't really get what you're saying. How am I acting like a typical female?

 

That. Clearly, you're not doing a fantastic job at choosing/interacting with your FWB. The great thing about that situation, is you're not obligated to keep them around. it's kinda like a month to month lease. So, put on your god damn big girl panties and get your shit together.

 

A fuckbuddy who pays your phonebills, what more to want as a woman? :biggrin: jk!

 

If these guys are paying your bills and buying you things in exchange for sex, and you are not reciprocating, then you're a prostitute, not a "friend with benefits". I'm not judging you, but let's not pretend that these guys are friends that you fuck sometimes.

 

I have to agree with some here, they pay your bills they think you owe them to take their shit. Not a good plan, get rid of him and pay your own bills and find some real FWBs that you owe nothing to but the sex exchange on both sides.

 

I buy them things too.

 

Insult him back just as bad.
He's obviously a troll.

 

How was what I said an insult?

 

I think she meant Twin.....the guy who called her fat :-D