Are You A Romantic Or Lusting Bisexual Male?

I've read in many posts that it seems the male Bisexual responders are mostly attracted to men sexually and not romantically. They have a want to enjoy an erection but any other body contact, hugging, kissing, etc. is not part of their desire. I find this very interesting that a man can be attracted to an erection and the sex it provides but other than that they are not turned on. There are those who have stated they get off being a bottom but are not attracted to their partners other features, chest, hair, ass, etcetera, much less wanting intimate conversation or interaction beyond being fucked.

Are there any men who like intimate contact or romance with other men? Men who enjoy making out with both sexes, male and female? Caressing, kissing, dating, just being totally involved with a man and not lusting after a cock to play with?

 

I'm somewhere in the middle. I'm not proposing to a guy anytime soon, but I definitely crave more than a 3 minute experience at a glory hole.
I admit I have fantasies of being used by multiple men which I do hope to fulfill, but I also want a passionate night connecting with a guy and enjoying more than cumming.

 

I can really enjoy a lot of passionate foreplay and the buildup to that big bang with a guy, but I'm not attracted to men like I am to a woman. It's all physical. I have no interest in a relationship other than sexual.

 

I have never had romantic relations with a man. I have no desire to have a live-in male sex partner. I do have a deep seated desire to have oral sex and at times anal sex with a man.
I engage in kissing and titty play sometimes with the right man, it's sexual satisfaction, as you put it, it's a lust thing and has nothing to do with romance.
I like, enjoy talking with a man before and or after sex about man jobs, work, man actives, sports etc. having nothing to do with our sexual activities.

 

When I had a regular FB, we used to talked about work and families afterwards.

 

Initially I was surprised that you had a male fuck buddy per se, until I thought about it for a bit. Being that I have had a couple of female fuck buddies I now get it. We also would share our work and family lives including pictures. There was nothing romantic about the relationship. Only what we provided each other sexually.

 

I've been intimate at times with men but nothing on the scale that I share with a woman. When I'm with a man it's purely sexual for both of us. We're totally focused on cock and pleasuring it.

 

What I should have added was when with a woman, even just sexually, I kiss, cuddle, fondle, and hold nearly every part of her body. I express love to her even if it is for a brief time that we are together. I don't see that with bisexual men interacting with other men. Women are just too adorable not to.

 

I think the sex is always better if it involves lots of touching,kissing,foreplay and not just dick to mouth ,ass, vagina regardless of persons gender your having sex with.For me personally when I have had sex with men I always tried to caress my partners body kiss etc although I’ve had some tops who were dick to my mouth,ass types without any sensuality those people almost always were one night stands.Never went back for more

 

I'm much like this. I did had one friend I would spend a lot time with. We could have some great sex, but afterward sit on the deck, talk and share a beer. After he had to move, I've not found someone like that again. Most just want the quick cum and be done.

 

Devoke: "Most just want the quick cum and be done." Many married men who like having another man suck their cock are time limited. They have to give their wives a story about where they are going, like "I have to pick up some screws at the hardware store. So getting sucked AND buying screws takes time. Other men who have the time are in a hurry to leave because they think it makes them queer.

 

Ditto for me.

 

When I had a regular FB our relationship was the same. I miss that and haven't been able to find that again.

 

Have you considered that you don't see expression of love in bisexual interactions among men mainly because you are not bisexual? That would explain why you have a difficult time imagining such situations.

You seem to be making the argument that hetero men can "briefly" express love in their fleeting affairs with women, but bisexual men do not express such love and affection in their affairs with other men. This argument lines up with the extreme amount of conditioning males receive to not express homosexual love and affection, but it does not line up with actual interactions I have experienced and have observed among actual bisexual men.

In a society that actively teaches men not to be affectionate with other men, it's easy to find men who will disavow the feelings of affection they may experience in their intimate encounters with other men.

 

It's not that I am not bisexual and I feel you are pulling my statement out of context from what I feel when with a woman. What I read is that most bisexual relationships are about the sex and no romance involved that forms my opinion. Read through the posts in this thread where you'll see statements such as not being attracted to men like a woman, it's a lust thing having nothing to do with romance, or it's purely sexual for both. This comes from bisexual men responding to the original question. My original post states that I have information from other sources to support what I understand. I make no argument that bisexual men cannot express love and affection in their affairs with other men. Only that I am attracted to women by more than the genitals or with just having sex with them. I share that I have love for the woman I am about to have sex with. I talk with, touch. caress, and enjoy much more than my cock in their pussy.

You bring to light along with some other posters that there can be a romantic connection between two bisexual men even though society presents obstacles to it. You state you have experienced and have seen this among bisexual men. Please elaborate on these observations and how you personally feel with your own bisexual relationship(s). This is the information my original questions at the beginning of this thread is seeking. I read from other sources that bisexual men, even women, have difficulty with acceptance issues within the LGBTQ community much less with the general heterosexual society. You even make the statement that is is easy to find men who deny having any feelings of affection within their bisexual relationships. This should explain why I have a difficult time imagining such situations. Please share and enlighten me with your own experiences.

 

This particular thread is not a broad sampling of bisexual men, and many bisexual men in America still tend to be highly conditioned to deny their feelings of affection for their male lovers. Thus, don't take a single page of posts too seriously, especially given the way you introduced the subject. Consider that there is some sampling bias in your research method.

Most conflicted bisexual men are the blow-and-go types, often to the point of being obsessive-compulsive. How do I know this? I have had about a dozen different sexual relationships with men, and over half of the men involved disappeared into thin air immediately after they orgasmed. I have read many accounts from men who identify as "bi" or "bi-curious" or "straight-but-experimenting" that tell a tale of "experimenting" time after time, while feeling driven to get it on with another man, but feeling ashamed or repulsed immediately afterwards. That type of conflicted sex is not fulfilling, but it can be addictive. The paradox is that these men don't realize that they need true intimacy, but don't have the communication skills and other tools to pull that off.

If I had only had sex with such men, I would have no understanding of true intimacy among bi men. But that is not the case. My first experience with a man was fantastic. He was a bit older than me. He loved and explored my whole body, not just my genitals. There was genuine affection, and we spent the night together before I had to continue my travels. This was way back in the 1970s, and he taught me that there is no shame in being affectionate with another man and extending the intimate experience to the whole person. We had long discussions both before and after the explosive orgasms we experienced with each other.

Since then, I have known several other male lovers who were also liberated from the bonds of feeling ashamed about loving the whole person, such as a big powerful man who loved full-body skin contact and kissing, and a construction worker who caressed me and gently supported my floating body in the Valley View Hot Springs of Colorado. I have a lover in another state who calls me on the phone every couple of weeks, and we talk for hours about what we are feeling and experiencing the world today.

Please be careful not to generalize about bi men. Men in America have been subjected to a lot of straight conditioning, much more so than women. Don't make it harder for bi men to recognize their need for intimacy.

 

BiGuySW, do you have any of these guys' numbers? Lol! But seriously I'm very happy you have had such intimate, meaningful experiences with special guys.

This is something I wasn't eager to accept 20 years ago. But now I'm very much open to explore that. The way I see it, if there's fun to be had with a guy even more than getting laid by him, why deny myself it?

 

i agree, in fact if i ever became single again i would consider a long rime affair w/a man including living together and all the romance. i'd want the fem role however.

 

hi your last paragraph describes me exactly. i'm all for romance 1st.

 

YES!!! I love romance and sensual. But only with a guy. Sorry if I’m out of line with your post (bi) I agree with everything else. I love showing my affection