Are all girls like this?

It seems like I am just attracting all these girls that have no idea what they want from me, and they start something then flip out or change their minds or something...

do all girls just not have the ability to stay in the same mindset? what's with this flighty bullshit and flip-flopping actions?

 

not all chicks are like that

your time shall come, human.

 

cant you just fuck em and leave it at that?... whats with all this emotional stuff?..
When you fuck the girl that loves your cock, she'll let you know..

 

i think i freaked the last one out because i said something about never being in a relationship and wondering what its like, and i freaked this one out by saying i didn't want a relationship at all. and all in between they can't make up their minds about nothing

i don't get what it's about, but i'm not giving this girl much time before i'm all out fuck you mode on her. i'm tired of wasting my time on these stupid gamin ass bitches...i don't play fucking games

that's it orison, i'm leavin the emotional shit out cause she was saying she wasn't ready for all that, and i'm not trying to get into that right now - she just dipped the FUCK out...fuck it i've got bigger fish to fry

 

Well first off man, you can't compare what one does to another and think the same applies across the board... trying to do that will accomplish two things... you'll lose your mind, and likely get smacked upside the head... lol

Beyond that though, you'll likely find you are 'trying' to hard to make it happen, as opposed to letting it happen...

When you force shit, things get fucked up...same applies for relationship as anything else...

 

dude just have sex and have fun.. fuck all that other stuff imo. you are young, you have plenty of time to swim before someone clings to you. If they cling, cling a little back a steady piece of ass and company is better than none..
tom said it. Let it happen, love dont like force..

and you think to much too. when you are 21 things will be different. Find a women your age then to go to bars and have dinner with. where you can buy drinks go to real clubs.. sitting on a couch isnt that romantic after the first couple times..

right now a lot is not even on your plate, when you turn 21 youll see...

 

i hear the forcing bit, and i don't feel like i am at all...that's where i'm getting frustrated.

whatever, it's still early for me to be doin my fuck off routine.

it's not like i'm trying to take this girl on dates or anything. we hang out and go out and do shit - we just have fun together, but now it just got super fuckin weird after i said i didn't want a relationship

like she hit me up two nights ina row at like 2-3 am. first night i didnt respond cause i was asleep and had to work, next time she just never came through. last night she said she was gonna come over, then just never did.

you guys are right though, and i know that all i can and should do is sit back


i'm still tired of having these girls run in circles around me - wasting my time.

 

Most girls don't mellow out tell after 23. At least in my experience.

 

That top 10% get all the attention and you all scratch your heads wondering why they are so picky like its trying to crack some secret government cypher. Whilst you pretty much ignore the rest.

Its not rocket science, either get some game or start picking your preffered brand of baby wipes now

 

lol fuck girls, i'm about done with even caring for any of them. fuck what they want, fuck what anyone else wants, i'm out for me.

i'm on my carnivore shit, dog eat dog, kill or be killed. trust no one, fuck everything that moves. then kill it...then eat it and piss on the bones.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

what other choice do i have? i've been the nice guy. i've been the asshole. i've been the middle ground. i've been observant. i've been indifferent. i've been passive. i've been aggressive.

what else do i have to do? i don't even care, i'm saying fuck you to everyone that hasn't proven themselves to me as being worth my time.

 

This is what I was talking about.

Stop trying to be all these different things to start with... you shouldn't be trying to by like any of them, you should be being yourself.

Also, either you have been those things to seperate women or have convinced a couple of women that you are totally insane, which comes back to why I made the point that every one of them is different...

You can't say, "I acted aggresive towards this one and it didn't work, therefore women don't like that"... Well, you can say it, but it is wrong.

You could spend the rest of your life bouncing from one woman to the next trying to please the last one all you want, you will always be running in circles and always be bitching and moaning about them...

Stop trying to be who you think women want you to be, and be yourself.... the women whom are a match for you, will NEVER find you until you do.

 

Tom May Be A Grumpy Old #%& On The Outside, But Occasionally *very occasionally*

He Offers Damn Good Advice, And Although It Causes Me Deep Distress To Say So,

This Is One Of Those Times....



Cheers Glen.

 

i think that no matter how i 'act' the women that are a 'match' for me will see through it.

i don't think i am acting at all, it is just my mindset. i'm not forcing anything by being passive, i'm not forcing anything by being nice. i am first and foremost, a friend to all the girls that i am interested in. after that they become something else to me, something i can't describe. i don't know how to deal with it, to be honest.

i just take what they tell me and try to react in a reasonable way. i dunno, perhaps youre right and i'm not being 'myself' - it's just hard to act myself when i don't know exactly what that is, yet there is something about what i am doing that attracts these girls...like i am touching on some part of what 'me' is but i dont have a conscious grasp on how to be me...if you catch what i am saying

as a gemini i have always felt like i've been missing my twin, my other half - perhaps it is a struggle to find myself within other people. i just havent been able to bring that to fruition...


or maybe i'm drunk and i'm over analyzing aspects of my life to a degree that is beyond necessary again.


the only thing that i can say for certain is that when i truly do begin to act like ME, girls freak the fuck out and dip...like they can't handle it or something. like whatever i bring to the table is over their heads, or too much to handle. i just dont KNOW...i'm tired of not knowing and it is tearing me apart.

 

Well, first off, forget the gemini thing... the random time of your birth has fuck all to do with who you are.

Now... look at what you said;

Just because you act in a certain manner that attracts some women, does not mean that is who you are...

By your own words, you have been trying everything... of course some women are going to respond to some of it... but they will quickly see that what they responded to, wasn't 'you'...

It gets worse, because as you are just randomly flailing about, when something you do does click with a woman, you have no clue what it was, because it was all just random responses to shit thats happening.

As for how you find out who YOU is... thats the hard one that most people never succeed on...

Who you are, is only something you can decide... and until you do decide and put your life on that path, you will never be any further ahead then you are now (in this aspect of life).

 

i have a pretty good idea on who i am though....


i don't have much else to say about it right now...but i don't think i've been 'flailing' as much right now as i have previously...which is what is more frustrating than ever.

i will meditate on this though, definitely

 

Well keep in mind, I can only go by what you are saying and as my memory sucks, I can only go by what is said in this thread...

What I do know though, is that when you do know who you are, you won't be quesioning why all these different women don't work out. You will know why they weren't compatible with you.

 

A little bit of empathy is needed though, if for no other reason than to run through problems easier and quicker in the future.

From my perspective, the security thing with the girls is something you guys dont get, even if you are not violent, the fear is still there that you may snap. They live in a world where half the population is bigger than them.

And for some reason you all seem to think the hot ones arent insecure, its a good act but they are all nervous wrecks, the bitchiness is a defense mechanism.

Then there is dealing with the other girls, a lot of which you dont see, which can get really bitchy, guys can be dicks to each other and bully each other but its short term, its not all manipulative, calculating and neverrrrr ending

Lastly, lets try role reversal. Imagine living in a world where girls didnt pay any attention to you unless you spent two hours in the bathroom before going out. And when out girls gave you a whole lot of silly talk just to get you into bed, if they do get you into bed then they always come before you do, but you arent able to just rub one out to relieve the frustration, you have to go through another dozen girls over the next three months to get off. Or the ones that can get you off dont call you again cos they dont have to try very hard

 

So, do I get what you just said right?

All women are insecure, frightened and bitchy?