Approaching ppl about 3somes?

Recently my bf and I decided we want to have a threesome/foursome. The only problem is we live in a very conservative-republican community and we really don't know any way of approaching someone about this idea. We've tried subtly talking with some of our friends, but honestly I'd like to stay away from close friends, just to avoid the awkwardness. I've only had a few experiences with this so I'm not too knowledgeable. He on the other hand, has had many experiences in college but he's drifted away from those ppl.

So, how do you find like-minded people who are willing to participate w/o scaring them off?

 

you could probably try a backpage/ or CL.. I would stay away from CL if your looking from ppl with direct phone #'s usually CL people play email tag games, no time for that..
depending on what you and your partner want. things can get complex.. Maybe he no wants to touch penis. Thats fine cause I make the same rule. though my last / and possibly tonight I have an appt with an asian couple (ive seen them once before, but my part is a little different that something your looking for. Right now I dont know if Im servicing the women or the couple, cause the women last time seemed to be the boss of her husband and was abusing him, belittling him, using my dick to get off. these are just thing you have to deal with cause i dont know how to feel about this myself.. Ok I like the idea of me making her happy or entertaining her, while im not to thrilled about her choking her husband on my cock..

you have to screen them good, and its best you get them phone # cause anyone can play email games, you want to talk to someone, know they are real. what they want..
you dont what the guy pretending to be a couple asking you what your wearing, What the fuck difference does it make what youre wearing at the time.
You want people that get down to business right away, know exactly what swinging is, swapping partners, or you can test the waters a bit with a female escort thats been doing this for a while..
do a 3 some before you do 4..
Dont use date sites for this either, your not going on a date are you..
Time limits are good too, you want to get off in an hour, you can adjust this later when you get to know them.. have drinks , ect. try not to drink things at their homes, bring your own water , and make them houses you meet at not hotel rooms.. the next thing you know the couple has you drugged, stole your car and credit cards while you and your partner are passed out..


yes Ive been doing this for a while..

oh do remember your barriers.. condoms..

 

listen to this ^^ I have only had 2 three ways and they were with friends who were into kinky shit so looking for someone is not in my knowledge it kinda just happened. I wish the best of luck to you and hope all is enjoyed to the fullest. Oh don't get your car and cards jacked that shit sucks.

 

Uh, YES!!! Anyways, thanks for the advice guys. That's pretty much what we had talked about, so idk, I guess we'll just have to wait and see.

 

you want nice people too, couple i was to entertain last night, was understandable that it was storming, and to severe of weather to travel.. you dont want people that are like "fuck that shit never call us again".. Pictures help too, but when screening you dont want the people that are asking for more Pictures.. these are trolling you for pic collections and not for sex hook ups. you want maybe want to try an escort from a back page who is an entertainer, knows the routine . sure noboby wasnt to pay someone 100 dollars for an hour/ but it might be safer at first til you find someone else with "nsa" so strings attached.
My Gf likes to have another girl lick her, while im penetrating her, she will not on the other hand eat pussy herself.. She will assist the other girl in oral sex on me... so you really do need to lay out your rules..

you could also try and underground dungeon, bdsm facility,, where you can tie your patrner up with real professional bondage stuff, mistresses will work with you, so not to interfere or play with you.. Its up to you, he might really like that, and its a little expensive.. Here about 100hr to 300hr depending on the mistress/master...

Good luck to you..

wish you would call me..

 

Don't use the internet

jus' sayin'

 

craigslistttttt lol

 

"The only problem is we live in a very conservative-republican community ..."

What ignorance ! You've been brain washeed by liberals. No big surprise there.

Conservative-republican's are a sexual as any liberal. You would be shocked at how many in your area play.

Grow up and get the stereo-typing out of your brain and go out have some fun.

 

Pictures help too, but when screening you dont want the people that are asking for more Pictures.. these are trolling you for pic collections and not for sex hook ups.


Good advice!

Conservative-republican's are a sexual as any liberal. You would be shocked at how many in your area play

Fair enough...how do I get them out of their shell then because everyone I know that fits this stereotype is not into it.

 

Got to know them better

 

i would have to agree you will find more creeps than good people.

 

Yeah like said before you might just have to get to know them better and go from there, or maybe join group activities that more 'liberal' people tend to like to like doing - sorry i can't actually think of an activity right now though... but like a yoga class or a philosophy group or something like that? I mean to find people to get to know better, to just jump in and ask

Or maybe if you try online (maybe you have hipformus members in your area?) get skype going or something so you can talk to these people and know they are who they say they are and get to know them for a while that way perhaps.

 

Alright hf members, who lives near Michigan/northern Indiana and would be down? We want to find someone like-minded like us. Real non-judgmental and fun. Pm me for more details as to what you are looking for in an experience.

 

wish i could say i did but i dont love the dreads though rock them hard.......

ps

put this thread back on top........

 

My dear, I can't tell if you were making a horrible yet hilarious pun

 

actually to tell you the truth no such pun was intended at all i just felt like saying that since it was not posted on if forever.... how are you handling those urges of yours.....

 

Barefoot, we have the same issues that you are having. Especially since Trish is very shy.

 

Yup.

 

Let's stay in touch (whoops another pun). Not sure how to do the friend thing on here though.

 

10hr drive for me..