Anyone else feel awkward around females, or atleast "clam" up? As a gay guy, I kind of assumed that it would be the female part of social interaction that would come easier I guess. I know I'm stereotyping right now. But I feel like I need some female friends, but if I'm not all cheery and open what is the difference between me and some random straight guy?
Hmm, I'm not like this at all :S I actually feel more comfortable with girls than guys, though I prefer most of my male friends to the females.
i have alot more girl friends as opposed to male friends but i dont think its because of any thing else than that my guy friends are boring. the girls i hang out with are more interesting and harder to predict. every thing ma guy friends do is just typical.
I'd say that I have an equal amount of female and male friends. However, I feel more comfortable talking to girls.
Has to do with stuff humans pick up about each other subconsciously without realising it. Some girls throw out sexy looks to all guys no matter who (as a way of controlling guys, not so much about partnering up ), some only when they are thinking of babies, and some cos they are in to you. This is sometimes what is making you nervous. It takes a while to work out its a different kind of nervous to the way straight guys get around hot girl seven though it looks similar. A straight guy will give that 'just looked like he got an electric shock look' where as some gay guys will look away to the side and look scared. Trouble is, if they are throwing sexy looks at you for whatever reason and expecting a return signal, not looking them in the eye is going to make it worse. And a small percentage see that reaction from you and know exactly what it means Its not girls, but girls hormones you are reacting to, make an effort, especially with the ones that are making you nervous, to look them in the eye from as soon as you meet them and keep eye contact. With girls its about bonding first, if they get that connection, the sexy looks will stop. Limit talk of sex and any touching (hug, touching arm) if that starts up the hormones again, and if you have a low voice try girly it up a touch around them
I, personally have more friends that are girls than guys. I'm not really sure why exactly. I mean I know it has something to do with my being gay, but I don't know if it's as simple as that. I generally enjoy the company of females more, however, I have some guy friends as well. I feel as though I can be more open around females than males. I just feel as though they understand me better.
You do not need to fit the gay stereotype. You do not need to conform to anything like that. If you don't make good friends with girls, then don't. If you're not cheery and open, thats just your personality. Don't be flamboyant so you can "fit in" about being gay. Being gay is your sexuality, it SHOULD NOT dictate your personality.
I cant help but to flirt with girls even though i dont like them. I have a ton of girls as friends. i dont feel uncomfortable at all around girls. :/
