So my bf and i have been together for going on two years now. we live together and have a baby. i am almost five years older than he is. he has told me recently that he is not ready to have sex with just one person right now. he doesn't want to break up and he says that he loves me and i'm the only girl he cares about but he is going to have meaningless sex with random girls. i told him that even though it really hurts me that he could as long as he just fucks them and nothing more. he told me that i could do the same thing but i'm not like that and i only want to be with him. are there any guys out there that do the same thing who are in a serious relationship? can you really just bang random people and truly love and care about someone else or is he just saying this so he can fuck around? if there are any girls in the same situation please let me know because i am having a hard time dealing with all of this.
polyamory/open relationships only work if BOTH partners want it/agree to it. one person saying s/hes going to go screw people at random while the other stays home and twiddles their thumbs just aint gonna cut it
lol and that's pretty much what i do. pathetic i know! i am trying to accept it though since he has been honest with me. i have gotten better with the idea, it used to make me physically sick when i thought about him being with someone else, but it's getting a little easier. i just wonder if he can really care about me or if he's just stringing me along.
some people are just extremely selfish and confused, best thing you can do is try and see past the bullshit, and forgive forgive forgive. hell come crawling back when he sees you enjoying someone else. trust me.
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no i'm not paying the bills. there was a time where i was working and paying everything, but now i stay home with the baby and he works
That's a relief to hear LSD. Still seems like he might be using you though .... but only you can be the judge of that. Tread lightly.