Anybody else have a life that is stagnating?

I am in a job I don't like - have put on a fuckload of weight due to said job and also drinking too much because of said job. I moved to the city I am in last year to be with my boyfriend until he graduates and we can get the hell out. In the meantime I have made a few friends, but not a huge amount, and I feel like my relationship is in a little bit of trouble now too, mainly because of my life situation.

Anybody else in a similar situation? Stuck in a job they don't like, in a town they don't like? Ugh it sucks!

 

no - because i only do things that make me happy.

 

Stuck in a life you wish you never had . Yeah still there .

 

a few years ago, but then i got out.

 

Do something that you used to enjoy as kid or something Wiccan.

In my case I enjoy playing frisbee or running, but if you were more into satanic circles and cat mutilation go for it. It's the little things you know.

 

Make some changes in your lifestyle. Have you talked to your Boyfriend ?

 

Dissatisfaction can be a catalyst.

 

stagnant??..id say no


but im definitely noticing a slow down...

 

Yes. I need something amazing to do. Just can't figure out what it should be.

 

Yep, I'm pretty much in the same boat.

 

I hope you're joking here..........

 

I don't know what Wiccan Witches do for fun.

I was just throwing out ideas.

 

I don't feel like I have any real prospects for making a reasonable income. I think I'll be earning a teenager's wages unitil I drop dead.

And my boss has me doing stuff that a person with a degree and a decent salary should be doing, but for an unimpressive wage.

And me and my boyfriend have almost nothing in common except for being too codependant to even consider splitting up.

 

I am there...I just moved in with my mom a few months ago...adjusting to being a single mom and living in a town I really don't like. I moved from CA to Ga and I am so appreciative now of where I lived before. I also left like everything I had behind, so I'm feeling a bit stuck...but I've actually been keeping pretty busy, working on a lot of projects and trying to keep very active with my little girls. I'm trying to follow my dreams and talk to people who are really inspiring to me and just believe that I can be healthy, happy and fulfilled in life... any periods of stagnation are growth periods, so long as you're open to the lessons there are for you to learn, then take action on integrating that into your life as soon as you get a chance.

 

i'm stuck in a town i don't like. well, not stuck, but i have to put up with it now.

remember, ask yourself: means to an end, or do the means corrupt the end?

/amateur philosophy

 

Don't mention my town... Please. :cuss: :banghead:

 

I feel your pain and find myself in the same situation right now so let me tell you how im coping.

Basically, I recently moved from an amazing beach city to a really small town like the ones you see in the movies where everyone knows each other and their lives. I Work 7 am to 5:00 pm with break inside the company only (horrible food). I work at a job that is monotonous and stressful and that is below what i should get with my degree--basically an odd job that pays just enough to cover the bills Used to be in great shape and now have been feeling depressed so stopped lifting after years of dedication and on top of that have been eating all kinds of crap because i havent been able to cook at home anymore. I get back at 7 and have no energy to hit up the gym so all of this adds up to a crappy state. No relationship either, which sucks because having a girl now would help.

Im coping with by first of all smoking lots of weed lol I have explained to friends that it is either that or taking anti depressants or drinking galons of coffee to get through the the day like all the other employees. Out of these option and feeling miserable, weed kind of serves as a good psychiatrist and helps calm the nerves. Also, I follow some the the philosophy of arnold bennett in his book how to live on a 24h day.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Live_on_24_Hours_a_Day

He acknowledges that several people have jobs they hate like us, they are "salarymen" that need the job: "They worked to make a living, but their daily existence consisted of waking up, getting ready for work, working as little as possible during the work day, going home, unwinding, going to sleep, and repeating the process the next day. In short, he didn't believe they were really living."

To fix this, he recommends using every little time you have before and after work to do something you enjoy, find something new, and enlighten yourself. To me I also believe this can be something like studying or working on a personal project that can help take you to a field that you like. So, when I get off work, I either go directly to some friends house or go do something i enjoy as much as possible like play some pool, light up, etc... At work, I also use every time I get to read articles and always do something I like. Despite the job being really boring and lame, i nevertheless try to be as good as i can be and excel at it because that can´t hurt either. On the weekends, I always take the car and go explore new places with friends, see nature, swim, etc. All these things help make it tolerable and actualy fun at times. Remember also that a bunch of people have had horrible jobs and it is a badge of honors lol it takes tough people to tolerate them.

Good luck

 

Thanks, FreeExplorer, that helps a lot.

A lot of it has to do with kinda being stuck in this place until my guy graduates - which is only a few months off. Until then, jobs are a bit hard to come by in the current economic climate. And the one I have pays OK, despit the fact I don't enjoy it.

I think it's a good point, to just find time everyday to do something I enjoy, and look forward to moving on in a few months.

 

tomorrow is today.