Any Other Gay (Or Bisexual) Guys Ever Fell In Love With Their Best Friend ?

I know it's common in the "lesbian world" for a woman (regardless of age) to fall in love with her best friend... But I'm wondering how common it is for a gay or bisexual guy to fall in love with their best friend.
I ask this question because I'm a bisexual married guy, and though I LOVE my wife very much, I'm also in love with my best friend... And have been for a LONG time, and at times, it's been excruciating. We've been best friends since we were 8 years old (we're 40 now).
I actually knew I was sexually attracted to other guys before I realized I was interested in women as well, and my feelings for him are what made me realize I wasn't "straight".
Unfortunately, I've never been able to tell him how I truly feel, because I've never been willing to risk my friendship with him, and he's never given any inclination that he's anything but straight. I'd honestly prefer to keep our friendship in tact rather than opening up to him, telling him how I really feel and risk throwing it all away, because he's that important to me.
He's always exuded lots of self confidence, to the point of cockiness, and that's part of what I find really attractive about him.
He has a natural dominant personality, and I'm naturally sexually submissive with guys, so that's another thing that's drawn me to him like I've never been drawn to anyone else before.
I've had 2 gay relationships in the past, and I've realized that I can be just as (if not more) happy, satisfied and content in a relationship with another man as I am with a woman, but never actually been sexually dominated by another guy before. Just the thought of him sexually dominating me drives me wild, and it's something I've thought and fantasized about MANY times over the years... But I'm thinking some things are better off to remain fantasies than to try and make them a reality.
As much as the idea of him sexually dominating me gets me off like nothing else ever has, it's NOT all about sex, and I've often wondered what a what a romantic/intimate relationship with him could/would be like. I just wish I could tell him how I really feel without risking everything.
Although it'll probably never go down the way I've thought and fantasized about, all hope may NOT be totally lost.
He's actually brought up the idea of having a 3some with me and my wife, and that obviously excites me. My wife likes the idea too, as she has a really high sex drive, and likes a bit of "variety" every now and then. I've never told my her how I feel about him either, as I don't want to cause a rift in my marriage, though she's admitted to being curious and turned on by the idea of watching me blow him, and even proposed that I eat his cum out of her (as she's on birth control, and wants to go bareback). I'm just not sure how she'd react if she knew knew I'd be more than willing to bottom for him any time he wanted, or that I've been fantasizing about him making love to me for years now.
So my question is this; Are there any other gay or bisexual guys here that have fallen in love with their best friend ? I'd like to hear other people's experiences or thoughts on this.

 

Dave I have a story of caution for you but it's late. I'll post it tomorrow. Long story.

 

This happens frequently, the question is usually asked in gay forums by novices, and they are always hard to dissuade from making a declaration of love.

Being the object of love is supposed to be an honour, but it is actually very troublesome for the beloved who does not reciprocate the love, because the lover believes that he has a special relationship with that person due to his love. If the beloved is accommodating because he believes that lovers need to be treated with care lest they suddenly attempt suicide and suffer permanent damage as a result of their ill-preparedness, the lover believes that this preferential treatment is due to a special affection for him and expects the continuation of the preferential treatment. It should be possible to ask best friends questions to find out what they might be interested in sexually. And even if they are interested in men, it is quite unlikely that they are interested in this particular man. Although not impossible.

You can try your luck with acquaintances, but I would advise against trying it with close friends. Since the friendship functions are a subset of the relationship functions, you are overburdening the friendship, which subsequently foregrounds what is missing, and that reduces the enthusiasm for the friend.

 

"You can try your luck with acquaintances, but I would advise against trying it with close friends. Since the friendship functions are a subset of the relationship functions, you are overburdening the friendship, which subsequently foregrounds what is missing, and that reduces the enthusiasm for the friend."

From my own experience you are spot on TwinT. I learned that the hard way.