Any Ideas, Thoughts, Recommendations on Getting your Female Partner to be more dominant?

Me and my girlfriend are newly moving into the pegging world together. It's something I've gotten into over time and she has been an amazing, willing partner to explore some new things that are unfamiliar to her. So far it's been comfortable for both of us but I'm wondering if anyone has any thoughts on how to slowly help her become more dominant over me in those situations. I've told her some of what my fantasy is for us when pegging and I think I came on a little to strong in the beginning for her. Which is fine, but I'm hoping we can get to the point where she feels comfortable being nastier and more controlling. For me I want to be totally dominated like a servant slut. I bought some panties and a pink skirt that I'll wear for her which she likes me in a lot. My hope is that eventually we can move towards more total domination. Just to give a quick glimpse of what I'm talking about...
I want to be completely submissive to her talk down and dirty to me. Make me do things in the outfit to show off off for her. Then when we get to the pegging part make me beg for it and when she's fucking me being nasty with her talking. Calling me her anal slut, asking me how much I wanted it, etc. Over time I hope this will lead to going shopping and her picking out outfits for me to wear. Thoughts?
So far it's been amazing but I'm struggling with how to move it in that direction while still being comfortable for both of us.

 

To start, be glad that the two of you have come this far. Not every woman is willing to "peg" her man so that in itself is a huge accomplishment. My wife had gotten started with anal play on me at my request, starting with her fingers while giving oral which she found out to be very satisfying for us both. We then progressed to a glass prostate massager which provided me with amazing orgasms that produced ragging hard-on's and larger loads of cum. Then came dildo's going up in size until I finally bought her a strap-on. She was hesitant at first but I convinced her to put it on and while she was adjusting it she was turned on at how the attached dong was swinging and flopping and provided me with a show prancing around with it and then just blurted out..."Hey boy, get over here and suck my cock". After a bit she penetrated me while stroking me and saw how much I enjoyed it so the use of her strap-on became almost regular. Each time I would act more feminine and speak more feminine to her while she's wearing it (9" dong) which led her to talking a little bit more "dirty" each time. It took a while but now she has no problem taking control and being dominant saying things like "Bend over boy, you're getting fucked"..."Get over here you cock sucker and suck my cock"..."You like being fucked like a whore?"..."That's it, take Momma's big cock"..."Yeah, ride my cock...stretch that slutty hole open"..."I own that ass, bend over you slut"..."Your gonna take this and enjoy it like the slut you are". It's been a process over time that she's progressed into upon my requests of asking her to be more vocal and dominant with me.

 

That's awesome and hot. Based on your explanation I'm on the right track. I did explain before we started how hard and bad I wanted her to fuck me. The first ti.e we were drunk and there was some dirty talking by both of us. Position wise I let her lead and fuck me as jard as she wanted which she really ended up enjoying and obviously so did I. I was (and still am a little) afraid of scaring her with how filthy I want to be. I literally want to be used as her fuck toy. The last few times she's started talking more dirty. I gave her some encouragement saying things like "yes, it's your ass, fuck it." And "I love being your slut." She talked off of that saying things like "that's right, you are my slut so I fuck you like one." And "I own this ass, no one else fucks it." I loved that. The idea of her having ownership of my ass and fucking me is exactly what I want. So we are definitely moving in the right direction. The most recent time I said "fuck my ass like your mad at me and I deserve it." I think she loved that because she really started hammering. After writing this and rereading it I think it's me leading a bit but she's all in for it. I guess I am still a little shy at how slutty and submissive I want to be. I originally told her I want to crawl for her and she didn't like that. Baby steps then because I eventually dream of hours or a day where I wear the slutty pink skirt I bought and I can be her's for anything she wants. I think right now it's a little too much for her to think of me like that but that's my hope. It's so hot to me to be dominated like that. Not painfully but chore wise. Told what to do with a little bit of humiliation. Like "clean the sink you slut and earn the pegging I'm gonna give your ass."

 

Im considering hiring a dom to show me how to be more dominant. It is something my guy is asking of me too, and I struggle with that part. I love pegging him. I guess its hard for women to understand that part. Maybe you guys could tell me what about that excites you. So I can better understand my guy

 

What excites me when my wife is going to peg me is the role reversal part where I'm able to fully release my feminine side to her. She'll have already showered first as I'm finishing mine up and enter the bedroom. She'll already be wearing her strap-on standing at the end of the bed swinging the dong at me with a sexy smile. It's at that moment we reverse rolls as I drop to my knees in front of her as she slaps my face and tongue with her cock saying "I know you want my cock"...I say "Yes I do baby" as I begin sucking it as she grabs the back of my head. She'll go through an array of small talk "Oh yeah, like that"..."Suck my big cock"..."Lick my balls baby"..."You want this cock don't you?"...We make our way onto the bed as she gently smacks my ass cheeks and says "I want your ass"...I reply "Please fuck me with your big cock"...She works my bung with her fingers and coconut oil to stretch me open and then she enters me with the head of her cock saying "Baby, your tight"...I'm moaning begging for it...She says "My cock is so hard for you"...I'm saying "Fuck me please...Please fuck me!"...She then starts fucking me like a man with all the moans and groans as the passion heats up to wear she's really pounding deep inside me. It did take her a number of times to build up her dominant actions and dirty talk. After some time she realized it was what I wanted and it started to really turn her on to play the male role and when she's finished fucking me we reverse back and I give her a good vaginal fucking.