Another confused person here

Hi, I'm female and I've thought myself straight for most of my life.

However, I recently found out that a lot of people think I'm lesbian because of how I act/dress etc. I'm pretty aggressive (hence my name) and not as sensitive as other girls I know. I also dress in a gender-neutral way (usually a t-shirt and jeans) and I'm not fond of either extremely feminine (skimpy dresses) or extremely masculine (biker leather type of stuff) clothes. I do like some 'traditionally girly' things such as kittens and nature but makeup and high heels are ridiculous to me. Girls are sexy to me, but not in a way that makes me want to sleep with them. I think menguys are extremely sexy and have the urge so sleep with some of them.

The thing is, while researching het sex (I'm a virgin and want to know the ins and outs before I do it) it seems to me that a lot of men want to degrade women (such as DEMANDING blowjobs instead of asking, getting angry when the girl doesn't swallow, wanting girls on their knees in a lower position) but don't give much in return. There's heaps of threads and advice on blowjobs but not many on cunnilingus. Deep throating sounds very dangerous if you're not very careful because you can easily damage throat tissues, yet guys want girls to do it anyway. You can probably tell I'm mad at a lot of guys out there.

In other words, I like girls and would like to go out with one but I don't want to feel attracted to them sexually, and I feel attracted to guys sexually but I can't stand how they seem to treat women during sex. What am I??? Thanks for reading all this and any help would be appreciated!