Anal Sex Questions, Honsest Answers Only!

Ok please be honest. I tried to have anal sex one time and he got the head of his cock in but after that I felt like my ass was going to rip in half and the pain was so bad I couldn't go through with the rest. It was nothing like I saw in porn, it was not easy like they do it on film, I seriously need help with this. I know it's possible because millions of people do it, but come on, what is the trick?

I also want to know this :

Is anal sex better then vaginal sex?
Do women really like anal sex?
How long does it take to adjust to anal sex?
Does anal sex cause your butt to be gaping open and eventually lose bowel control?
Does your butt bleed the first few times?
Explain The butt plug!
Will my butt be sore after?
Does it cause hemmeroids?

 

simple answer....your vagina is for penis not ass. it will hurt if you wanna try in wrong hole.
as far porn are concern, they get paid for this, and believe me the pain they feels rest of the week is nothing compared to the money they get...poor soul..lol

 

That avatar isnt going to convince people you are a she

 

What utter Crap. Anal sex is fantastic, use plenty of lube and work the rim, build up to it slowly with lots of play, when the penis enters the vagina it's very important to be relaxed just let it slide in. My girlfriend can now insert her hand into my anus it truly is a wonderful experience. There's a lot of nerves in the area so it's very receptive to stimulation. These people who say an ass is for shitting don't have a clue.

 

My best advice, take it slow. Lots and lots of lube. I did a lot of anal play on my own to help prepare. I sed a bullet first, them graduated to a dildo. When I thought I was ready, we used ALOT of lube. I enjoyed it... Never thought I would. But if you're not relaxed, it will be painful. Yo need to be ready.

 

Maybe I need someone that can relax me so I'm not so anxious about it.

 

Omg a whole hand! Wow! Does your butt hole go back to regular size after my god that must hurt, are you being serious because I don't really believe you for some reason. Why a hole hand ?

 

Well I am a girl but I don't really care if people think I'm a boy. At least I'm not a gorilla.

 

yeah, i don't know how you would fit an ass in your vagina.

 

lol..that "Auto Correction" mistake...

 

I too want these answers Candybuttons! Can someone help us girls out? How many times does it take to get used to it? Does it cause a gaping asshole/loss of bowel control? Or hemorrhoids?

I am turned on watching it and have done a little anal fingering but that is it. I am thinking about trying a slim vibe in it today.

 

You just have to ease it in. There will be a period of pain sometimes intense. The pain lasts about 20 seconds. Once you get past the pain the pleasure begins.

 

It isn't required. You can have a wonderful sex life without anal. I do.

 

yes it does go back to regular size, use lots of lube, the secret is relaxing, then it goes in quite easily, I really enjoy it. If you don't believe me, you are more than welcome to try me x

 

This is a matter of personal preference. Some prefer anal, some prefer vaginal, some prefer oral, some like some combination or all equally. Don't worry about which is "universally" better, just try different things and figure out what you and your partner(s) like.

Absolutely! I've known many women who absolutely adore anal, some who totally prefer it, some who can only cum from anal, and some who have chosen to never have vaginal sex again because they enjoy anal so much. Again, this is certainly not universal—most women undoubtedly prefer vaginal sex, but there are certainly women out there who greatly enjoy anal.

This is also a bit dependent on each person and their physiology. Some women try it and after a moment of discomfort, they love it. Others may take weeks or months of gradual practice and introduction to reach the moment of realization that it's great. Many give up before they reach that point and so never end up enjoying it. The key for most people is to not start with anal intercourse, but to experiment with anal play at a small size—like, a lubricated finger—while also enjoying some other stimulation you enjoy, like rubbing or using a vibrator on your clit. After some time, when you're comfortable with the one finger—and this might be after many sessions, or it might be right away—try adding a second finger into the mix. By the time you can comfortably fit three, you might consider getting something like a butt plug, which you can get in a variety of sizes, are very pleasurable, and you can wear while masturbating, during oral or vaginal sex, or even while doing other things, and which help very well for anal training.

If something hurts during anal penetration, it means you aren't ready for that size yet and you're going too fast, too soon. Start small and gradually increase the size and you'll get there. If you reach a point that hurts, back off and try something smaller again for a while. You can also gently push out, or bear down, as if trying to go to the bathroom, to help relax the muscles. Playing with your clit at the same time if anything gets uncomfortable helps you both relax and interpret potential discomfort (which is very different from pain, which almost always signifies you're trying something bigger than you're ready for yet) in a more pleasurable light.

NO. This is an absolute myth rooted in homophobia which still persists today. Safe and healthy anal play and sex tend to actually cause you to develop greater muscle control and strengthen the muscles, rather than weaken them. You would have to cause frequent extremely painful anal muscle damage for such a thing to occur, and it's incredibly rare to the point of virtual nonexistence. Immediately after sex you may be looser for a short while (but can still control the muscles to tighten up), and some of this is just a false sensation due to the area being a bit puffier from increased blood in the area and arousal. In general, within a few hours, you return to normal tightness.

As you gain more muscle control, it lets you open up and relax your muscles more at will, which can give the impression of being looser because you open up when you want to, but this does not mean you become incontinent or lose bowel control.

This can happen, but is another sign that you're going too big too soon. You should stop if you bleed and give yourself a few days to heal before trying again, at a slower pace. Especially when you're starting out, always warm up with fingers or toys, starting small and working up in size before beginning your main play or sex session.

It's a sex toy that seats inside and stays in place through the use of an internal bulge and an external flange. Many people simply enjoy the sensation of having them inside, and they also make for a pleasurable combination during masturbation or vaginal sex. They're also an excellent tool for anal training. Anal penetration almost universally leads to a more powerful orgasm, and a butt plug is an easy way to maintain an anal penetration, since it stays in place inside you.

It can be, especially starting out—you're using muscles in new ways, and that tends to lead to soreness. If you do too much before you're ready, you might also cause some bruising or even microtears that can cause a sensation like soreness for a few days. If it's just a bit of soreness, it's not much to worry about—just wait until it fades before trying again and over time it will diminish. If it's active pain after, it's a good sign you did too much and should warm up more next time or take it a bit more easy for a while.

Hemorrhoids tend to be more of a genetic thing. For those prone to them, it has the potential (as do many other things), but many people enjoy anal sex and other more extreme anal play without ever getting them.

Anal is nothing to be scared about, and it can be incredibly enjoyable for everyone involved. If it doesn't interest you, you shouldn't ever feel pressured to do it, but if it is something you're curious about trying, I think you owe it to yourself to learn how enjoyable it can be, because a lot of people are missing out on how awesome it is if done correctly. Unfortunately, a lot of people have bad experiences with it that keep them from trying it again and learning how to enjoy it. I'd suggest reading more online—there are many, many articles on good anal techniques and how to enjoy it. It's a little more involved than vaginal sex, to be sure, but so worth it.

 

Thanks Cheddar! Your answers are awesome. I have more questions...
So I understand the going slow, starting small and working up. But does it every get easier/faster to use a larger toy or cox from the start? So after I have been doing it for a while and it is pleasurable to get a big cock in, will I still have to start small every anal session?

What about anal beads? I think the ones with graduating balls on them look fun, is this a good trainer or is a butt plug better?

After 2 babies, my vagina isn't as tight as it once was. For those who live anal sex, is this why you prefer it.... Tighter and therefore sensation is stronger?

 

At first, yes. Over time, not as much. As you develop more conscious muscle control (this comes from practice, mostly) you require less warmup and can just relax and open yourself up at will to a certain extent. There are some involuntary muscles involved, though, so depending on the size penis you may still want a few minutes of warmup (just think of it as foreplay) with fingers or a butt plug to aid penetration. This is not necessary for everyone, and I'd suggest just seeing what works for you. At first you're going to need more warmup before sex, and as you get more practice the need will likely diminish at least somewhat. The warmup itself can become a fun and enjoyable act of foreplay.

Anal beads can be enjoyable, but in general they aren't going to do too much for size training. (They're still good in that they, along with any sort of anal penetration, help you get comfortable with the sensations of anal penetration and discover new, enjoyable aspects from different types of stimulation.) Butt plugs and dildos are better training devices because their thinnest point tends to be still fairly thick and so holds your anus open while inside, whereas beads tend to have a very thin connection between each bead. Not at all saying beads are worthless, just that they aren't one of the more efficient training methods. A common use for beads is to insert them during vaginal or oral sex and pull them out at the moment of orgasm to greatly amplify it.

Tightness is an aspect of it, but just as with a vagina, exercises can help you develop muscle control and tighten or loosen at will with either. There are women who can fit 3"+ diameter toys anally but can still have anal sex with one guy which is enjoyable for both despite not being considered "tight" in the traditional sense. Well-trained muscles and muscle control are more important than "staying tight". There's also a different texture to anal vs. vaginal, you can go deeper without being limited by vaginal depth and the potential of painful impact with the cervix, both partners can feel the other's orgasms more clearly, there's more of a primal feeling of connectedness and intimacy with anal, there's an incredible visual from anal for men with the woman's anus clamped down on his cock, you can cum inside with no pregnancy risk, women almost always orgasm more powerfully from anal, and more. It's an amazing thing.

 

Anal fisting is a more extreme act for most people, but anyone is totally physically capable of working up to that if it interests them, and just as with regular anal sex, it can be done entirely without pain, just intense pleasure. It generally takes a long time to get to where you can do it, but there are people who enjoy it.

 

Nice and slow with lots of lube;thats my advice!

I love anal sex because its a much different feeling for a man to vaginal sex.Yes its tighter but the lubing up adds to the anticipation and its also a much naughtier thing to do!

 

Is anal sex better then vaginal sex? Not better, not worse - just different
Do women really like anal sex? This one does. I know others who both do and don't.
How long does it take to adjust to anal sex? Done properly, a matter of minutes.
Does anal sex cause your butt to be gaping open and eventually lose bowel control? Not here. I can't answer for others.
Does your butt bleed the first few times? Absolutely not. If it does - get medical advice pronto !!!!
Explain The butt plug! Pass.
Will my butt be sore after? Mine isn't, but then I'm just one person.
Does it cause hemmeroids? Eeeeeew Pass !