Me and my partner have recently tried anal, girl on guy, a few years ago before I met her I gave myself anal pleasure, I enjoyed it but I know full well that I am not interested in guys, I like the idea of being dominated by a female and that is a great way of feeling it. Anyways, this was started by her, I only recently told her that I gave myself anal pleasure before she did, this made her more comfortable with it. She enjoyed it at first but has become wary of it recently for no reason to my knowledge. I don't know how to tell her but at phases where we only give oral pleasure (no penetration sex) I would like to receive this with it. I an a strong believer in not asking your sexual favours abd just letting them come to you but I've been craving this for a while, she is interested in strap ons and toys but we only use fingers at the moment.
Express your desires to her. If she doesn't comply and you simply can't live without it, move on to another.
I think that you should be able to express your desires to your partner. If not, I think there could be a problem.
To quote the great billy Joel "tell her about it, tell her all your crazy dreams" I held onto my strap on fantasy way too long. I finally broke down and told her I always wanted to try role reversal . Her response was "well, go out and buy a strap-on,"and thanked me for letting her in on my fantasy. I got one the next day, when I got home she brought up,the subject again asking "so when are you going to get our new toy, I said I already got it, twenty minutes later I was finally enjoying what I had waited for for so long and it was incredible, I'll never forget her whispering in my ear "I'm fuckng you"
shes not a dom, she dont know how to act. youre making her uncomfortable and youre an asshole for doing so..
