So I've started dating this girl whose past boyfriend was an idiot when it comes to proper anal. Apparently he was rough although they used plenty of lube. She says he didn't last long, like under 2 minutes (and often under 1 min as she has explained). Now when we started having anal, she said she never thought it could be that pleasurable. Still, she thought it to be normal for the penetration to hurt (my head is quite large according to her). When I told her we'd need to just use an anal plug beforehand she was surprised.... Anywho, from the first time I had anal with her I did notice her butthole looked a tad odd. It appeared to be a tiny prolapse, as in a bit of the skin from inside her sphincter was poking out, I've searched for pictures but none have been accurate of what I saw although a few pornstars seemingly have what I'm talking about (though I can't pinpoint which ones at the moment). Now, she was having anal with him for roughly 5 years about 4-5 times a month. Even if he was blowing his load after fifteen rough pumps, wouldn't this have caused some type of damage? She says it was mostly painful with him. I feel really bad for her. She hasn't had any pain since I started using a butt plug (I used fingers beforehand which is often enough) and she has massive orgasms (much stronger than vaginally). But I still feel bad about her past and wanted to know if she may have suffered any serious trauma. Apparently her friends who practice anal also suffer through pain and think it's normal. :bomb:
Not all holes are going to look the same. Possibly it's just a skin tag and they can be cause by previous blood clots and hemerhoids. If you're that unhappy with it she could probably get it cut off but unless she spreads her cheeks in the mirror she might not even know.
True that! My wife has a small hemorrhoid and it doesn't pose much of a problem. I'm always careful to be gentle as I enter after a minute or 2 of external massaging. After a few minutes with me inside she loosens up, allowing more vigorous stroking. Yes, the orgasms are amazing. Isn't anal sex great?
After googling anal skin tags and fissures I did come across a few photos that were similar to what my girl has. http://www.amoils.com/pub/media/gallery/thumbs/85_320x320.jpg It doesn't bother me, I was just concerned about her feeling pain. And if there was significant long-term damage caused by previously painful anal. That sounds like herpes man. You should get checked.
I've seen a lot of porn where the women have skin tags like that. It's not necessarily from anal sex at all but for the porn stars maybe it is.
After around 18 years of anal with nearly something going in almost daily, I haven't had any damage, my sphincter is fully intact. Done properly it's very safe even if you go extreme. If you think the extra skin is an issue I guess see a doctor about it.
Maybe it depends the size of tool that gets in there and how properly it is done as you said. If you abuse anything sufficiently enough, it will show
I agree, if the guys was big and was just ramming it in there then yeah, it could cause long term problems imo. Make sure she does kegels regularly to strengthen her anus. You just have to make sure and communicate with her and ask her if it's painful if that's what you're concerned about. Jeez, guys can be such d-bags. He fucked her in the ass once a week for 5 years, and he NEVER tried to make it good for her? As a woman she should have more respect for herself than to let him sexually abuse her like that for years.
I know my anal opening isn't as tight as it use to be especially since I've been stretching it much wider than it should be with some things that has caused a bit of pain but it eases off gradually. But I don't mind a bit of pain.
Only when my wife is cumming does she like a bit of pain. Like spanking, hair pulling, or deep deep anal. When I spread her ass and go deep, I can tell it's painful for her, but she keeps telling me that when she's cumming she just wants me to tear her ass up, LITERALLY! So I do my best to oblige her. She also gets a little bit of pain during the initial entry of anal, so sometimes we will have vaginal and I'll put some lube and rub it on her anus, and when she's about to cum I just take it out her pussy and impale her ass all the way up to my balls in one smooth motion, I've gotten her to squirt like that before. Believe it or not her ass even squirts its own mucus during intense orgasms. I didn't know the ass could get wet like that until I met my wife.
