Hi! I've started to really enjoy and want anal sex, and I love it when my bf cums in my ass. But I still consider myself inexperienced, so does anybody have any advice? I'm interested in ''preparations'', since it still hurts a bit at the beginning. we do use a lot of lube, and we go slow. I'm also concerned about ''accidents'', although nothing has ever happened yet. And I often feel the need to go to the toilet afterwards, even though when we start I obviously don't need to. Does that happen to everybody?? Any advice would be appreciated
My wife and I have been nearly exclusively anal for over 2 years (we've have vaginal only sex maybe a hand full of times). She still experiences some "pain" during penetration and in those situations we just take our time. Other times she just doesn't feel comfortable and then there is the other end of the spectrum where I can slip in and pound away. She does a water only enema from time to time (when she wants to be naughty) but for the most part she is clean. As far as mess goes we've had some minor mishaps but hey, what do you expect with anal sex? She always has to go to the bathroom when we're finished even if she has cleaned herself before hand. Oddly enough see is like that with vaginal sex too, she pretty much always goes pee after we're finished. One of my favorite warm ups is us laying in bed, spooning naked. I'll rub and stroke her ass for awhile. She now does it to me and it is very therapeutic and relaxing. Her lube of choice is Anal Lube so after 10 minutes of rubbing her cheeks I'll start rubbing her ass hole with my fingers that are coated with lube. I use an up and down, back and forth motion for a bit and then I'll us a circlular motion. She really enjoys this and I'll alternate between the 2 motions. Eventually I start adding pressure to her ass hole so that my finger gently enters her ass. Only a little bit at first, maybe the first knuckle. I slowly go deeper and I continue to massage her ass hole on the outside in between finger penetrations. This has yet to fail to relax her and get her ready for full anal sex. Hope this helps. It's a lot of fun for me too and lasts about 20-30. (Confession, we usually watch TV when we do this or porn)
I don't really have any advice for warming up. Sometimes you gotta endure a little pain to enjoy things. As far as "accidents" go... I've participated in anal with every woman I've been with. (Not a huge number, I'm not boasting lol) I've given and received. I've licked, fingered, plugged and put my dick in all of them. I've been licked, fingered and probed in return. Only ONE TIME was there ever just the tiniest of accidents which we didn't even notice until the lights were turned on. And it really wasn't a big deal. Strip the sheets and wash them. Problem solved. My point? Don't sweat it over the possibility of a little brown ooze. It's bound to happen at some point. Don't let it ruin your fun.
I know it could happen, but i would be really embarrassed haha... but my bf says the same thing as you basically, not big deal.
Listen, We try to make anal a regular thing here, and I will prepare by water douching before hand. Then we can switch around and stuff.
How did u..... I bought a reg.douche from the chemist summer's eve or something, and ya have the bottle to use......
yeah i also have a red one haha. i really don't know how to explain without sounding a bit gross.. but i'll try. i just couldn't clean completely. i tried several times, and it never seemed to be enough... i hope i'm making sense.
well..i try help with this : 1- is he BIG ?? if he is Big then best is you use an anal plug ( or blugs) slowly and how its comfort to you ( with much lube) till u reach plug size near his dick width ..and leave it there in ur Anal opening for 5 minutes or so while he kisses u and lick with u with his tongue ..then take it out SLOWLYYYY! ..and then put his well lubed boy in you slowlyyy!! 2- try be the one who leads the intial insertion ! do it on YOUR SPEED )) 3- Position for intial insertion is IMPORTANT due to the different anatomy of people ! try not have intial insertion in Doggy , but rather with : a- missinary with small pillow under ur hips and ur knees back ur chest b- or cow girl with face to face where u lead the insertion
I've done anal many times without an enema prep and have never once had an accident, but I would always finger check myself in the bathroom first to be sure things were clean. Even so, I always worry that I'm going to embarrass myself by making an unexpected mess. I never quite relax while I'm doing it. The difference between anal without having had an enema and with having cleaned with an enema is huge. If I have flushed until I am clean, I can relax about a thousand times more knowing that there is no chance I will be making a mess. Psychologically, it makes all the difference in the world to me. If I am in a long term relationship (like I am now) I clean before having sex every time. It's part of my routine and my bf knows it. No, he doesn't help. That's gross! My advice to anyone thinking about anal is to enema first for your own peace of mind, not because it's absolutely necessary. As for stretching - plugs, plugs, and more plugs.
Robertos1313, yeah, he's pretty big, i'll definitely try a plug . thanks for the advice Doreigirl, we think alike haha, i always worry that i'm going to embarrass myself too. i'll give enema another try thank you
Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned.. The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and sphincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all. Anal play for beginners Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY. First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure. Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP! Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in. Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug. Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK! After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco! GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE! The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.
Me and my bf do it a lot so i may be able to help. You are probably really tight so it will hurt in the beginning. Use a ton of lube and have him loosen you up before inserting his junk (i.e. using a finger(s). If you want to make sure your super clean, use an enema or something of the sort. It'll clean you right out.
